Congrats on 14 months! I completely understand living alone myself. The loneliness and boredom leads to those endless thoughts bouncing around in your head. I have to conscientiously recognize that and tell myself to stop. Watching a few TikTok videos is a short mental distraction for me. Someone mentioned MeetUp as a way to find sober activities and make new friends. That was a good suggestion. Stay strong and keep those thoughts positive!
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Yes, I work the program of AA and ironically, stay in touch with a core group I was in rehab with in 2021. I have an online home group here in Albuquerque and a great sponsor that I am working the steps with. I understand wanting to connect with like minded individuals. It takes a little time, but keep putting yourself out there. I was an isolated drinker for years, so it’s important for my sobriety to stay connected with other alcoholics in recovery.
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Congratulations, 14 mo!! I live alone and am alone a lot. Even as an introvert I’m feeling it too. Isolation is one of my super powers & kryptonite. Something that helps me is to have one committed in-person thing a week. The same thing so I get to know others a bit. If I make it to that one thing I’m doing good. Yes, my life is sort-of in a holding pattern… like airplanes.
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Be excited because these feeling you’re having as uncomfortable as they seem can lead to real growth. Now is the time for action. Don’t regress to the old you - you’ve been there and done that already. Now is the time to become the new you - so get out there and do whatever it takes to find your joy. It’s an inside job, and once you learn to find happiness from within you will exude something so attractive you’ll be like a magnet attracting all kinds of attention and admiration. Let’s do this!!
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I love this idea! I am going to find that one thing a week and commit to it for the month of February. Thanks!
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Very well said! Thank you for this 
Wow 14 months holly ship. You rock. Remember you are stronger than you think and we all are very proud of you !!! I’m currently at 65 days sober, I have my children and my customers and couldn’t do this alone. Maybe try hanging out at a good coffee shop or take some classes at a community college I find pottery and metal smith a very rewarding hobby. Keep strong!!
Dont slip hold on...metaphorically
We need you
Congratulations on your sober time and good idea using this app. Reaching out for help especially in times of stress works wonders for me. Keep your head up and be proud of the women you’ve become today. God Bless and good luck.
Congratulations on 14 months, your post reminds me of something I heard In early sobriety “we need to be comfortable with being uncomfortable”. My opinion is that this is an opportunity for you to grow, the companionship you had with your daughter was filling a need for healthy companionship. Now it may be time to put yourself out in the sober community and make lasting friendships. I have a whole group of friends that are there for me and I for them, we do fun things like… weekly game nights, camping, fishing, hiking, concerts and more. I’ve met all of them in my 12 step program. I live a full life and not ever lonely anymore. I hope you find peace and remember… we DO NOT pick up no matter what. You’ll be fine, this too shall pass.