Furthermore, apologizes for talking at length, but I think it’s also important that recovery isn’t linear. Everyone’s journey is different and you’ll find what works and what doesn’t. Once you do it gets a little bit easier each time. I found it helpful to write a list of all the things maybe I lost through my addiction, that being activities I used to enjoy and started doing them to see what I actually like and what I actually need.
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I actually created a list and posted on my wall in my bathroom!
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Yes! I love that!
Sounds weird, but sometimes I tell myself “I won’t drink/ use today I’ll drink/use tomorrow” it gets me through the craving. Keeps me in today, if you say that everyday you’re doing it one day at a time. I heard this after many failed attempts and it helped me
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Lean on others. It’s a “we”
Program.
Rehab
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I’m a firm believer step 1 is all I, not we. It’s gotta come from within you to know it’s time. Many people get stuck on step zero. That’s when you’re justifying that you can drink. When you’re with a certain friend, doing a particular activity, I’ll only do it this one time. Knowing all too well that it’s going to end in a sh¡t show. It might not be today but in a week or month, however long, you’ll be filled with regret all over again asking yourself why you do it. Once zero is in the rear view and you’ve got step 1 down you’ll do anything it takes to end the misery.
For me it helps to focus on the now, and not the future. Literally taking it one hour at a time. Stay busy, reach out, go to a meeting, read a book, workout, and before you know it the day is done and you’re still sober. I know easier said than done.
A lot of people are saying you MUST go to meetings like AA or NA. For some? Sure. But if you aren’t religious then you don’t need to do the god stuff. Praying doesn’t have to be to a God. You can pray to anything. SMART recovery is amazing and they have online and in-person meetings. It’s logical, science based, and God free. Beyond that, there’s also something called Dharma Recovery, which is rooted in Buddhism and mindfulness. However, if you are into the God stuff all the power to you.
Go to meetings. Get through one minute at a time, then one hour, then one day
That's right my boy.solid advice. Aa is a little much for me
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I don’t like the idea that they open the meeting up with that ‘we are powerless’ over our addictions. To me that just sounds like addicts are pathetic and that’s just not true at all. We all have inner power that we can absolutely harness. The fact that we choose to get sober is our decision and that alone requires an incredible amount of power.
Accountability mirrors are great. David googins talks about that in his book can't hurt me
It's just funny how aa says they are a non judgmental program but if you aren't doing it their way it's super judgmental.
If there’s any detox issues with this sleep it off as long as
Possible