Yeah, was at my AA meeting awhile back and said my name and I’m an addict. Was drilled about it after the meeting. Old timer was like, you say alcoholic in AA meetings. So I says, guess being an alcoholic means you aren’t addicted to it also? Lol. A drug is a drug. Alcohol included. Anyway, respected the code since. No biggy.
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I think they say it's not a choice now that's why it's labeled as a disease. Not sure how all that works but I'm with you on that. Self will is a bi**
Maybe you’ve had some bad groups. There are many out there that are supportive and respectful. Don’t give up on it just yet. Also, check out an app called ThePhoenix. It’s a sober event app, might have something nearby to connect with like minded individuals outside of AA.
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I think the dynamic of the said meeting makes a big difference. I’ve been to wonderful womens meetings and terrible co Ed meetings. Maybe I just like the same gender meeting better. Have you tried a womens meeting?
I’m with ya, I was not impressed with my AA experience either. I am working SMART Recovery and I am really finding it helpful.
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I’m still hunting for a sponsor and I’m a month in. Frustrating
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Not ever meeting is good, just like every bar I went to wasn’t good, so find the one you like and fits you. Don’t give up
I went 10 months before I found mine. Don’t rush it, you can still live the principles without a sponsor. The sponsor is going to help guide you through your past and cement how to live in the future. That comes when you’re ready, don’t force it.
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Tbh my thing with AA is the fact that you go and tell stories about the times you weren’t at your best and that’s just a trigger for new because I associated my association with having fun…ESCAPING REALITY
But I have zero idea how to “work a program” or work on “nothing changing if nothing is changing”. Or work on any other one of those slogans. I’m just a dry alcoholic then.
Alcoholism is the biggest drug problem in America. I was addicted to it. I’m an addict. I’ve never been to an AA meeting and I’ve been sober 12 years. If that’s their attitude I never will go.
Freaky Friday and sober af are really good ones
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Why can't these groups be open minded about alternatives like SMART and anything harm reduction. Sure, I see a few get it, but they marginalize people who don't like dogma.
AA is really creepy. I just go once a year to collect my coin. It's unhealthy for me to go more frequently. I'd suggest just finding online support or meet up groups for people that want sobriety.
The 12 steps of AA is for the hopeless alcoholic who has tried everything else to get sober and failed. Truly desperate people whose lives are in jeopardy. People who are willing to try anything, even if that means trying to believe in God.
I'm a member of AA, working the steps was my last resort.
If you have options and time to shop around, SMART recovery seems legit. I like that there's science to back things up and their program evolves with new information. Also i think the CBT element is important.
Get sober however. That's why we're here right?
I'm available for anyone who has questions about the steps or needs a sponsor.
I gotchu! I’m serious about my sobriety and if you ever want to reach out hit my page, I’ll friend request you