I know it’s no help, but I could have written the exact same post. I don’t know the answers but I try to get myself out there a little.. although I often don’t🤷♂️. I have about the same sober time as you and am still struggling, not with sobriety, but what you described.
Hang in there. There will be better days, I know that for sure.
I never have an answer when people ask me what I like to do. All I do is work and go home
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You aren't alone I know I definitely feel this way a lot. I try to challenge myself everyday whether it is at the gym, trying a new recipe, enjoying a new song or just going on a new walk. A lot of the time it is just something simple to try break up the days monotony.
Add me to! Feel the exact same way. To boot 6 months out of a 4 year relationship that was built on both of us being alcoholics. Things changed after we both got sober! Now I feel alone, no issues staying sober, but I'm a person who enjoys being in a relationship, so that part sucks! But at least I'm sober!!
Hello Sarah, sorry you're feeling like this. One thing I like to do is go to places where I can be social and sober. My favorites are the gym and church. I like being part of these communities and making friends there. I also work on creative things and try to build in small steps.
Hey Sarah,
Roughly a year ago I felt the same. I have a Senior and Junior in Highschool. I joined Meetup and have explored several different online and in person gatherings. I’ve tried activities and seminars that were outside my comfort zone. Highly focused on self-improvement, mental health and sober activities
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I love your answer Frank.
You are not alone when it comes to restructuring your life after sobriety. More often than not it takes time because when we begin our journey into sobriety it's not all about us. It would be nice if it was that simple. But most of us have responsibilities such as raising kids, cleaning up the wreckage of our past and so on and so forth.
As Frank said above, you are starting to feel again and what you're feeling right now is that you are not satisfied with the way your life is going. Do you know how you get satisfied? Change your life.
I know when I say these words that I make it sound like it's so easy but I never said that it was easy. The person who has the most to do with what happens to you in your life is YOU.
Most of us don't have a clue in the world what we like because we never really gave ourselves a chance to figure that out. If you're anything like me, you probably started drinking when you were very young. Then before you know it there were kids in your life and a spouse and all the challenges that go with that.
The good news is, it's never too late to change your life. There are many resources online to figure out what it is that you like. When I began my journey back in December of 2002 there was a woman in the program that I hung out with from time to time. (Non relational)
We stopped somewhere to pick up her son from his friend's house and they were playing a video game. I had never really laid my eyes on modern day video games and I was amazed with the graphics.
I was checking out the other games they had on the shelf and one of them was entitled Flight Simulator. He told me that he really didn't have much interest in that software and so he gave it to me.
I always had an interest in aviation but it got kicked to the curb because of life compounded by alcoholism. I did have a computer at the time and so I loaded that software into my computer and I discovered what Fight Simulator is. I started buying accessories here and there. One day, about 6 yrs later I had a computer built specifically for flight simulation.
One day I met a man through my church community that had been flying airplanes as long as I had been driving trucks since the '80s. He told me at the time that it was not too late to become a pilot if I wanted. And so I set out to do this by getting some real air time in a real airplane.
Unfortunately, I never did finish that endeavor because at the time I still owed a substantial amount of Child Support and I had to take responsibility. Then I met a woman in 2015 that eventually became my wife.
I've spent nearly 4 years getting her and her two kids on track with college education, driver's licenses and everything else. I brought them over from the Philippines.
I still toy around with aviation here and there and I haven't given up on at least maybe earning my private pilot license. I never would have dreamed after all the years of being stuck inside of bars in a pool of alcohol that I would ever get up in the air and fly airplanes.
I'm currently learning about real estate investing so that I can obtain financial freedom and get out of the rat race. Making these changes has not been easy and it requires commitment. For you it may be something else. But there are choices and there's something out there for you. You just have to go out there and find out what it is.
Also, you will probably make some new sober friends along the way.
I hope my story inspires you to go out there and figure out what it is that you like to do and change your life. Recovery from alcohol is not solely about living in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous and giving away what's been freely given to us. It's about learning to live again and rediscovering who we really are and what we are capable of by living a clean and sober life.
Wow that is great!
I feel you on this!
Sarah, your not alone. I think so many of can relate to some of how you have been feeling. Stay sober one day at a time and things will get better
Sarah, I’m sorry you feel that way but I kinda understand it too. I feel the same way most of the time but not because of drinking or maybe in a way it is. Long story short I separated from my wife and now I don’t know how to be me. In some ways this could be a great opportunity to try new things. I fell in love with camping since I’ve separated. I go to water parks when it’s nice out and I go snow tubing when it’s cold out. I workout more. Sometimes you just have to step out there. I go out to see bands play and yes I often go by myself. I’m socially awkward and probably look like a creep but I go if I’ll enjoy it. Sometimes it sucks but you do what you have to do to stay sober. I hope you find friends. Best wishes