Hi everyone today 21 days sober but feeling really sad

Recovery
#22

Gigi,

You got this! Being willing to put yourself out there is remarkable and deserves a pat on the back!

It’s normal. For you its a new “new”. Sad feels different. So does happy. Its all a part of unscrambling of your insides.

Alcohol was a fake girlfriend. Always told you that you were stunning to your face, yet called you ugly behind your back. Its like any other break up. It ain’t easy. Down the road….you’ll be smiling and someone will raise their hand in a meeting and ask this same question. You’re going to be able to share that you did, and also what you did to get out of it.

Easier days are right around the corner. Be available to see them. We need you sitting in that seat! It’s yours now. You earned it!

Your friend in Fl,
Brent S
OG2OT !!!

Yes its normal!

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#23

Yeah 23 days here and I’ve felt just horrible every day, so much depression and loneliness. Meetings just aren’t for me so I stay alone. No friends, family doesn’t get it. But I will stay sober for me. I know it can take up to a year or more to feel better

#24

Congratulations on your sobriety! For me feelings and thoughts were a bit challenging for a while, but I realized after a bit that it was just because I had been suppressing them, and wasn't used to processing them to make good decisions on how to live, what to do, how to think, and which feelings to soak in and which feelings to redirect. By focusing on learning how to approach these feelings and thoughts (with the help of an awesome therapist) I now am in control (at least a ton more) and am much happier, as I take on life with a more present and action oriented approach. I'm learning again how to be the person I want to be, and it's great! You'll get there too; I recommend checking out resources that address things like significance, imperfection instead of perfection (which doesn't exist in this world), and for me Faith growing reading since that's a part of me. #sobergrowth. Congratulations again :tada:

#25

Congratulations keep up the good work

#27

Ha! I use to think booze & weed were my best friends! They were duplicitous back stabbers that played me for a fool and tried to kill me😅
Trust me, your true friends are sobriety, the sober community and the program. Stick around, get involved, be of service. Go to live meetings and get a sponsor or two.
You got this!!!:wink:

#28

You’ll be fine. I had similar feelings. Yes, it is like losing a friend… except that friend sucks. That friend borrowed money and never paid it back. That friend always made you feel better mentally and physically. It was literally a toxic relationship. You’re better off without them.