Yeah, that's like the main thing I'm trying to work on with my therapist is exactly what you said, changing those negative thoughts to positive ones. I guess I'm just finding it overwhelmingly difficult at this stage, all a part of the battle though! Glad to hear that this approach has worked for you though 
I hope to be in a similar mindset eventually!
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Glad to hear it's worked for you! That's what I'm holding onto is the light at the end of the tunnel! I surprisingly haven't had any compulsion to drink, it was almost like a switch flicked on that last session and just decided I am so done. It's never felt like that before. I'm aware I'm still early on though and I'm sure I won't hold that mindset forever though. Thank you for the kind words!
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You’re doing great!
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You’ll get there. Through this process we’re changing what we’ve been doing all of our lives… it’s not gonna come easy. Feel free to connect with me if you ever want/need to. I’m lucky I have a couple people as support that have helped when I need a little guidance or just a second voice, it can be tough not knowing anyone that’s going through what you’re going through.
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Sweet, thanks mate! Just sent you a friend request.
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There has been a lot of great comments added to this post. Everyone is different, your brain definitely needs time to heal. It took me 15 months of struggling before the fog started to lift. I lean really hard on my support system. There were also things that I had to let go off. It been about 9 months since then I have grown immensely. I am in a better place mentally, physically, and spiritually then I have been in almost 20year. I hate the saying but it takes time. You got this.
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Our bodies are surprisingly resilient. We just need to give time, time. You are exactly where you are supposed to be at this stage of your sobriety. It's not uncommon when we are newcomers to come into the program wanting 10 years of sobriety in less than a year.
We didn't get this way overnight and so we don't get better overnight.
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That's a relief! My memory has gotten so much worse and I'm only 27 so I'm praying it will get better, glad to hear you're out of the fog now! Thank you
The fog will clear Kyle, stick with it! It doesn’t happen overnight, but you’re getting close. Personally, after about 8 months I saw a dramatic increase in energy and mental clarity. Great job brother, keep it up
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That's why they tell us in AA, no major decisions for the first year. The fog does eventually lift, and we are looking through a totally different set of lenses than when we first came in. This is true for everyone
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The first 90 days are extremely confusing
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No joke I’ve been EXHAUSTED and telling everyone who will listen and I had the thought literally earlier today that, hey, I haven’t felt that fatigue for a couple days now, and I feel like I’m starting to settle into a normal mentally consistent and sustainable routine. I’m a little shy of 5 months.
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That’s undetermined because it’s different for everybody but just keep doing what you need to do to stay sober in the miracle will happen
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I try not to make statements for everyone. I only speak for myself. I started feeling better as soon as I internalized the fact that if I drink, my life turns into a total mess. I’ve proved it over and over. How do I stay stopped….AA and HONESTLY and THOROUGHLY working the steps. I’ve been doing that for 6 years.
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Home. It can take any time everybody’s different I’m older and I know I had time sober years ago and I slept a lot dreams and nightmares good dreams worked out jogged a lot. I never read a book in my entire life until I got sober. I never sat still on the beach and just listen to the waves until I got sober so everybody’s different you just Gotta find your peace and I think that’s half the battle whether you’re trying to get sober or trying to justlive mmmmwith It, and just do you do your favorite thing something that does not relate with alcohol or drugs
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Sorry for the miss guided message. Apparently you can’t say the curse words
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Be a LONGTERM THINKER. Things arnt just going to be perfect after coming out of the FOG. TRUST the process of RECOVERY and you will make it
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Heck yeah man, get that ambition back with some education!
You can’t dwell on the past. Your body will heal. Most of us want to apologize to others and be forgiven, but the most important person to forgive is yourself. Apologize to yourself, admit your mistakes, forgive yourself, and keep moving forward. Just do what ya love man, and you’ll find that depression starts to melt away.
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