Difficult people feed off of negative reactions. It's actually an addiction. I would recommend to stop reacting to her and let her ego run it's course. Eventually she'll realize her ego is not being fed and will most likely stop and look elsewhere to feed. Or also you could approach her with kindness and understanding. A negative ego diminishes pretty quick in the face of love and kindness.
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That’s a tough situation. I know that I am not responsible for other people’s actions. That’s for sure.
I have also found that the longer I am sober, and practicing the program daily the less drama there is in my life. My life is very peaceful, serenity is something that I cherish today.
Believe me, it was not always that way. Hang in there and remember it works if you work it!
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They do not have any children together. She is blocked on her regular account but posts these videos on spam accounts that I also have blocked but I check them from time to time and she also tags my sons father in them which stirrs that pot. She’s sick in the head. It’s all so mentally draining to deal with I don’t know what to do
All we’ve done is ignore other than trying to get a restraining order. Up until this week I hadn’t posted a thing about it or gave a reaction. And it never stopped for months
Wow. What the heck. She is being incredibly harassing. Have you consulted with an attorney on the matter? Most consultations are free so maybe you could get some good advice that way?
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I have not. I would have to try to find a free one if I did because I can’t afford a lawyer
You could call and schedule a free consultation with any attorney who would deal with this (thinking civil court? Could be wrong) and get the free consultation, then make a decision as to whether you want to pursue any further from a legal standpoint based on what they recommend. Again, I am so sorry you all have to deal with this. She will keep spiraling and is hammering another nail in her coffin every time she posts and acts like this. 
Take the threats seriously. At face value. Keep a record of everything. Every recording. Every video. Every note or message. When building a case the court and police will take serious all data is important. Remember though your son doesn't know he is aware of the change in your behavior and your boyfriend. Stress and fear are palpable. Children are also smart. They hear observe and try to figure out what's happening to make mommy worried. If the time comes he asks explain it in simple reassuring terms to leave him feeling secure. But don't lie. Children like adults know when we're being blown smoke.. also if you believe in God ask for intervention. Plus your boyfriend may benefit from seeing a counselor about his former partner. Guys may not like to admit it but a horrible partner causes them trust, anger, and future relationship issues
Most important: your life and your child's Must come before a guy a relationship. If you are willing to allow possible violence to harm you or your child just to be with him you might need or benefit from counseling.
God bless you. Jeep going to meetings and talking with your sponsor too
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Janie, I am so sorry this is happening to you. It is awful.
I’m sure you have tried everything already suggested here and then some. If I were in this situation I would be thinking of a passage in the big book which pertains to other people, and how they are sick, just like us. That we need to give our resentments over to our higher power, so that we are free. Or as @taylor134616 said above, stop wasting energy. Document and report for sure, but try to detach from it. This is her problem. The way her problem affects you is the only control you have over it.
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She hasn't recovered from her lost of her ex.check out some Al-anon meetings that will help you with how to react to others
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Her ex is dating you now
Teaches you detachment