I suggest to go to 12 step meetings
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I started a weekly walking meetup. I put up posters around town and on social media. Sober or sober curious community walks. And in the winter we go to a cafe for an hour. It feels good to start something and get out. You be the change you want to see filled.
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Iām with you, Tim. I am currently doing a program that keeps me pretty busy but am looking at how to keep busy after the program. There is a place here in Denver called the Phoenix that Iāve been thinking of getting the courage to hon check out.
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Yeah, I go to one, but probably should find some others throughout the week
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Same, where do you live? I joined this app hoping I could search people in my area Winnipeg and find sober friends and connections.
Tim, a bit of solitude is healthy. Isolating is not.
In early sobriety it was suggested to me to go to 90 different in person meetings in 90 days. I found the meetings I enjoyed and people I really liked. It was an adventure! I built real friendships with people in recovery that understood me and was never lonely or bored again.
Iām here if you want to talk
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That is very sound advice. Iāve heard it for years, and did exactly that during my first stent of sobriety. I found my home group and sponsor in one of those meetings, and went 5 days a week for 5 years. I know thatās what I need to do, Iām just having a harder time this go around getting myself to do that. Iām not in the same state that I was then, so I just have to force myself to do it. Itās funny to me that I struggle with loneliness, but then at the same time, donāt really want to be around many people. My sponsor used to say, it takes about 5 years sober to get āwalking around senseā! I may be in that zone! Haha
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Iām in Nebraska. Nothing but corn fields! lol
Tim, I had to go to meetings early mornings. So I didnāt give myself any room to get wierded out and sideways. Plus it help me set up my day in the right frame of mind
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My dog and cat help keep me balanced they are my rockā¤ļø
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I can relate. Im 30 years sober, just left a 10 year relationship because he was jealous of my AA meetings. How sick right? So I cry every day , but to me thats a cleansing of my soul, because my anger is bad. I cant wait till the weather breaks but in the meantime I read positive stuff, drive around and go to a meeting. I would sit all day at the meetings if I could but I work and have responsibilities. 
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I got involved with my church started going twice a week and itās been a little over a year there now.. and Iām playing in the worship band now which requires me there early and an extra day for practice and one of the big reasons I chose to stay with the church is I loved their talent in the worship band so God is good and the people there are all encouraging, highly recommended you get plugged in to a church somewhere and see what God can do in your life!
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I also struggle with this. I'm single, have been for some time and I don't have any friends. I never really have.. so I can't just call somebody. Besides, I've never been the talking type. I can't just call someone up to chat lol. I do find social media to be helpful because I can talk to people here and I don't feel as lonely.
Wow for me it was different, I was ok at times drinking alone,listening to my music,but I craved to be around other people drinking so I would go to bars nearby and drink and play same songs on jukebox that I would have at home lol smh,hoping secretly someone'd be like hay,I like that song too and maybe a convo would start,I guess I was looking for a kindred spirit lol. But yeah loneliness sucks after you become widowed,but I know if I go back to drinking it won't change anything.ill still be alone but ill be alone sober with my true sober friends and brothers and to me that's what counts,I met 3 true friends in aa and one is my sponsor,I hate loneliness too but Stay the Course brother
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So I have been sober for 13 months and throughout the 13 months I would say I thought that by being there for the people that I hurt would make me feel better and also keep me busy oh and by the way I forgot to ask that the man that I've been with for 20 years is still is his addiction trying to hang strong also forgot to say staying sober without meetings or a sponsorš„¹š
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Hang in them and find a sponsor. If I know anything, that was a God send to me
I am the same. My crazy mind just baffles me when I hate being lonely but at the same time, donāt really want to be around a crowd! lol