My wife told me I was better as a drunk!

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#27

That’s harsh. Hopefully you are undergoing some counseling.

#28

I am

#29

Basically what she is saying is try. As alcoholics we are more miserable not drinking. When we quit drinking and then don’t change our behaviors and get the tools we need to deal with life without alcohol.

You see if you take a drunken asshole and take away the alcohol and drugs all you have left is an asshole and until the thinking and the behavior of alcoholism is changed as well.

True sobriety is not the act of quitting the use of whatever substance your addicted to it is also removing the ISM, all the other behavior linked to your drinking.

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#30

That is rough. About eight months ago my girlfriend whom I was living with at the time began insinuating that she liked me better as user of methamphetamine and even said “you can use every once and a while.” Fortunately we weren’t married. The next week I starting sleeping in a stockroom at work and I’m still there to this day. Once I got the okay from my boss, I converted it into a really nice living space with a bed, dresser, music studio, drum set. Plus I’m never late to work.

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#33

All ways remember sober people and drinkers don’t mix.one person wants to change.the other dose not. Weather it’s friends or family.all ways very hard.

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#34

That bad don’t listen to her

#35

True but then I would never say something like that to my husband if I have one

#36

My guess is that she is full of shh…no one is better as a drunk.

#37

Man good stuff. Insightful

#38

That's going to be tough on you Mick if she's drinking. I know you that. That might even be some jealously from her raging back at you. Proud of you man. Keep fighting the good fight and don't compromise your sobriety. Making sense of what someone says when they've been drinking, well doesn't make sense :thinking:

#39

They think we are better then they are.but I am not.

#41

Because you are in the recovery process and she will like you as you recovered.

#42

I’ve been feeling this from my boyfriend lately (he actively drinks in excess) and this whole thread is super helpful. Thank you for sharing, Mick. Wishing you the absolute best and I hope that she figures out whatever it is shes projecting onto you. Keep up the recovery!