How did you meet your sponsor?
Your not ready for that, and I find it's similar to church and to na meetings all of them are the same, even church is much higher. And ignore what people say sometimes, some are just used of this and that with all new books and technology it's changed so much and change is good. And hey which is why we are here. Thank you for reaching out wish you can text on here. But there is also zoom and team meetings. And you can just listen. And you don't have to go live. Or you can. You know when your ready. And I'm here with ya. Years of experience and finally realizing the struggle is real so I snapped out of it and see everything differently xo hugs I'm alive thankfully for my higher power. O'siem God bless you
I agree, I tried AA for 3 years and found that the people there are very judgemental, and God forbid you relapse they really judge. So, I stopped going along time ago and I don't miss it. I do find that SMART recovery very helpful because they concentrate on your feelings, thoughts, behaviors, the negative and turn them positive to live a more meaningful life. AA doesn't do that.
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Neither did I - thought it was a pertinent point for all of us in recovery
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It's OK I tried many times in AA and NA and just have hard time sitting thru it.
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She was my neighbor
I agree with you, and NA was no better
Meetings are triggering for me. I love having this app to vent on and to lift people up who are struggling. Both help me as if by magic!
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We all have our own way to deal with this yours is the right way for you ok you chose it 
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I have found it's all a matter of perspective. If youre going to die, like literally going to die in the next year or so, you're much more likely to be willing to do a 12 step program. If your life just sucks a little bit then you probably won't, like why would If you dont have to. AA works best for the desperate, which i certainly was. I use to bad mouth it a lot too until I exhausted every other way of trying to get sober. If you get desperate enough it will always be there
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Hello Carmen. I felt exactly the same way. Out of 5 years being sober next week Iāve only been no more than 10-12 times. I donāt need to go Iām doing perfectly fine and still going strong. Hang in there.
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Carmen, I hear you. Many AA meetings can be clicky and we recovering addicts can be serious wack job ego maniacs for sure. I didnāt like the politics either. But I realized that I wasnāt there for that stuff. I went to be of SERVICE to the newcomer that was asking for help and needed a little hope, direction and support. Thatās where my true sobriety starts and continues to grow. I had to transcend my own ego and practice grace, compassion and humility. The gift is gratitude. Thereās no better place to be.
I hope this helps.
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No judgment from me. But I remember my first time trying to get sober. I said to myself, 90 days.. I can do this!
I did it. I made it. I thought I had conquered alcohol. On Tuesday, the 90th day, I decided to treat myself to a drink. Oh my gawd, the chaos that ensued immediately after. (Lol, so glad I didn't marry that stripper after my spontaneous flight to Vegas)
I made my way to AA and it gave me a foundation. I dont go as much any more but it help me grow my sober nerwork
It's ok. Truly
Hmu anytime
Sorry to hear that. Every group is different. Search around. If that's what your finding they are not working a program. Good luck
Hey as long as you got spirituality and humility about who you are and able to let the world do world thing without an upheaval then you should do fine. Gotta have a support network..... I also understand where you think it is cliqueie, but until you put time in with a home group you may not see or comprehend the power of the group consciousness. There's a lot to having a spot where you can trauma dummmmpppppp and no one will think anything about it, and may have experienced it before and may have a few wise tips on how to walk this path of release of addiction/consumption. Not many can do this totes alone. Gotta have a genuine and familiar support network that you build up. I met some ppl that I would call in the morning, a whole different series of folks that are available at midday, and then the graveyard shift folk that would show me love and talk to me in the wee hours of the morning if I needed that . Just my opinion.