I am so sorry to hear about your loss. That has to be very difficult and not too mention painful. May God bless his soul. I can see your point of view with a bit more clarity now. Thank you for sharing that information here. May God bless you and your daughter to keep pushing forward 
Working on this for sure. Thank you for sharing.
I’m sorry can you elaborate please? I’m curious what you meant here.
Appreciation and self-love are the most important tools that you could ever nurture. Appreciation of others, and the appreciation of yourself is the closest vibrational match to your Source Energy of anything that we've ever witnessed anywhere in the Universe.
To me, right now it means to pay attention to me and my emotions. When I feel sad or anxious or anyone of those feeling that we generally don’t want to feel, instead of making my self busy to ignore that feeling and suppress it (cause that’s what is really happening), I stop and pay attention to it and allow it to be. I ask it what it needs from me and I welcome it and let it know that it’s ok for it to be here. When I do this, I’m nourishing myself and I’m learning and understanding my emotions. I think this is one of the most important practices of self love that I’ve been able to learn and one of the biggest things that has helped become more aware and happy.
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I love myself to know I don’t deserve the drugs and abuse I endured for such a long time, I thought it was normal.. I love myself to know I deserve happiness, I know I deserve to be loved. Sometimes this can be really hard for me bc I am my own worst enemy honestly.. I had to reinforce positive affirmations to my mind daily to get where I am now mentally..
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Be calm doing stuff for me, no drama working everyday
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To me, loving myself means showing up for myself. Keeping the promises that I make to myself. Taking care of myself physically and emotionally above all else.
It’s the little things: waking up early, feeling grateful, working out, drinking water, hot showers, skincare routines, stretching, meditating, journaling. Hugging my loved ones, creating something new, learning and expressing myself.
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I give myself a break. We ALL have flaws and fall short sometimes. That's ok. I try to learn what I need to learn and be grateful for what I have. People without the disease of addiction do not have these platforms to talk about issues,feelings, or to reach out to help others. Their not perfect either. I am truly grateful for this platform and AA. It is such a relief knowing that I don't have to be and will never be petfect. I am happy with who I am today. Flaws and all.
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For the first time I'm putting me first I know I need to get better I know I need to care for myself before I can care for anybody else and I did everything backwards I should have gotten healthy and then taken care of my aunt but I did the best that I could and my uncle as well and they knew that I just want my loved ones to know that I love them and that I would do anything for them
I'm learning to love myself, a day at a time. I was so bad to myself for years and years. Every day that I stay clean and sober is an amends to myself.
I definitely agree with you but Do you believe appreciation and gratefulness come hand in hand? I know that I also have to be grateful for everything I have and was given and will be given because it has showed me good and what I thought bad were lessons that made me stronger and made me who I am today. Anyways, thank you for sharing this. It made me think.
Those are definitely hard feelings and tough emotions to deal with. I as well am trying to sit with these emotions lately and I try to see why I am feeling like this and I also tell myself it’s ok that I am feeling this way. Some days are tougher than others but thank you for sharing this because anxiety is a huge one for me.
“I know I deserve to be loved” I truly felt that because it is so true. We all deserve to be loved and this is why I asked this question because I know I have to love myself first. Thank you so much for sharing.
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I agree on the no drama part. I don’t like it and I don’t want it. I am working on my own peace and peace of of mind.Thank you for sharing that.
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I feel you on that. Remember, when you have anxiety it’s because you’re either in the past or in the future, you’re not being present. Our mind has taken control of us since we began coping with traumas as children so our mind is just doing what it has been doing for the last (however old you are). We have to retrain our mind purposely or nothing is going to change. I do Vipassana meditation, this type of meditation (at least for me), has retrained my mind to recognize the moments it’s starts taking off. When I notice it now I’m able to come back to the moment. While meditation can help instantly to calm down, it is the daily practice that reprograms you to come back to the present when you have moments that will trigger the anxiety. I did a 10 day silent meditation retreat in Nov of last year… one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but so worth it, haven’t been the same since. But I continue the practice otherwise my mind will go back to what it’s known.
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I feel like like I have trouble liking myself, yet alone forgiving myself or loving myself. Feel so much guilt and pain for all those actions.
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I feel it bro. I’ve been there but it only consumed me and almost took my life because of it. There is forgiveness but it takes forgiving yourself first. I pray for you and I hope all gets better. I know I am seeing a bit of a light now and I’m working hard on getting to where I need to be. We all deserve love and happiness.
Thank you and thank you. I will definitely look into those two types of meditation. I do body scan meditation because it helps me realize how much anxiety and stress can tense our body. There are so many types out there and I am very interested in that silent meditation now. So curious about what it’s about. Thanks for sharing that again.