People who drink every day are not well. I know that now. I used to believe otherwise but the need to be numb every day is actively suppressing something that needs to be addressed for a healthy relationship to even exist. So no.
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Thanks!
Thanks everyone for your responses. I should have qualified it by saying a daily drinker who drunks 1-2 but I know even that would be a bad situation for many, to have to be around it every day...
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Well Iâll tell you my situation. Iâm an alcoholic. Started drinking when I was 14. Tried to stop lots of times. Detoxes, rehabs, aa, nothing worked! But I guess I just hadnât had enough, that is until 15 months ago the 26th of this month. I finally decided that drinking just wasnât working out for me. I couldnât moderate it so I just had to not drink any more. I made a choice! Just like a made a choice to drink in the first place. I decided I wasnât powerless over alcohol, just the opposite. I was the only person who had the power to make the choice, so I did. Havenât had a drop since. Now my girlfriend of 16 years drinks. 2-3 every day when she gets home from work. Some days not, just depends. I make her drinks for her, doesnât bother me. I am the one with the problem, not her. If I asked her to not drink around me or not have booze in the house she would but why would I put that on her? She has done nothing. I am the one with the problem so to me that really wouldnât be fair. Especially when she put up with my bs for all those years. Everyone I know drinks, family, friends, well some donât, but thatâs their choice! I didnât change my friends when I quit and they all were extremely happy to find out I quit because I was quite the a hole when had too much. Anyway, it doesnât bother me in the least! Accept when people start acting stupid from too much. But then I just excuse myself! Good luckâ:+1:t3:
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Thanks Miguel!
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Work on you and give them to God. Whether they have a problem or not, stay out of their program and be the example. Attraction, not promotion. Pg. 418 in the Big Book has a great story for an alcoholic mind and it's wonderfully terrible magnifying abilities. Invite God into the situation while you're at it.
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It would be hard. I don't mind once in a while, but every day. Plus it's there for you to see. I'd have a hard time with temptation out in the open.
I'm not saying never drink, but everyday wouldn't work for me.
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My partner drinks a lot and weâve been together 15 years. My sobriety didnât stick until we had to move into different houses and spend less time togetherâŚ..
Itâs heart wrenching, feeling like you have to choose between your sobriety and being with the person you love.
If I had a do over, or found myself single again, I would be with someone who doesnât drink or rarely drinks. Someone who wouldnât care at all about not having alcohol in the house. Being in a relationship with a heavy drinker is really really difficult.
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He ll to the no....
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Definitely not.
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