One day at a time. You can do this! Breathe & Believe!
It doesn’t have to be today. Heck, maybe you will accept it in the next 5 minutes. But for now don’t think, don’t drink, get to a meeting.
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40 years for me I know the feeling. I try not to look at it like that. One day at a time meg. 11 months for me and I am loving my new life to say that to myself anymore. It will get easier.
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Don’t think of it like that. Keep it simple. Just don’t drink today. Tmw is a new day.
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It’s natural to grieve during this time. You are losing a relationship in a way that has served you/you thought was serving you. You may think life’s gonna be boring but it wasn’t before you started using.
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Read a book called Allen Carr’s “How to stop drinking without willpower”. Big big help. It supports what Brennan above just said… and it explains so much that AA doesn’t necessarily do. Not a slur on AA by the way. Any information is helpful at this time.
I can relate. Alcohol was my best friend I couldn’t stand losing. Don’t come to terms that you can never drink again. But come to terms with not drinking today!!!!
One day at a time…. Sobriety is honestly the best gift you can ever give yourself.
Hang in there it’s not always going to be easy but believe in yourself 
One day at a time. Sometimes 1 hour at a time or even 5 minutes. Don't give up. We've all been there.
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thinking about it as never again for me made me so overwhelmed and sad. try to just think about a day at a time
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No need to go a mile in only one step. Focus on small slices. If you can do today, then you can do it again. Or even smaller if needed.
Try to slow down and live 24 hours at a time.
Don't worry about all those years ahead of you, tell yourself it's just for today. "I can drink tomorrow, today isn't worth it" then tomorrow say it again.
What helped me was following a lot of awesome, hot, positive sober role models on Instagram and other platforms. Watching them get excited talking about sobriety and how good their life is changed my perspective. I started saying "I want what they have"
I struggled with coming to terms with that for 40 yrs...I finally accepted it 2 yrs ago after a bartender had to control my drinking for me and cut me off. It was an awakening I needed. I'm finally doing this a day at a time...Acceptance was the key to a whole new world for me. And thanks to AA and my hp
You can drink if that’s what you choose. Play the tape out and see what the future will bring and then pause, pray, ponder and proceed to whatever you choose. 24 hours a day January 6th offers an opportunity to meditate on this issue.
So you can’t drink anymore big deal go change your script. Go find your groove write a book there’s a whole life out there be someone that you can be proud of go on a trip go hiking build something you’ve got dish drinking not all you can do right?