The one thing I've struggled with since getting clean and sober

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#21

I hear you.
3 yrs sober n my routine is the same. I work overnights to keep myself out of trouble. N sleep all day so it’s work n home. Sometimes I do out go n stuff. N when those times come it’s very hard get anxious /anxiety .Still working on getting out of my comfort zone. But it is hard I wish it was easy.

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#22

Hi. 7 years 5 months and 27 days. I realize nothing " new " and or " exciting " will just come beating my door down. I spent most of my life using and drinking but managed to stay functional. I guess in some way I felt new and better relationships would somehow appear and I'd have this happy ever after kind of thing going on :roll_eyes: Silly I know but living most of my life using and drinking reality is something I'm still getting used to

#23

Exactly. Same here.

#24

Have you worked the steps with a sponsor?

#25

Yes several years ago. With a counselor. He's great. Still reaches out everyday

#26

Nothing changes if nothing changes. Take the drink away from me, and I'm still stuck with me. Gratitude, in my experience, is an action word - what am I doing today to be of maximum service to God and others?

I had to dive head first into AA, then work the 12 steps before my misery ended. At points in my life, it appeared from an outside perspective that I had an enviable life. I was miserable, I had every material possession I could want or need, and I still drank. It wasn't until going through the steps, daily prayer, and building and developing a relationship with my Higher Power that I was able to find peace.

If you keep doing what you've been doing, you will continue to get what you've always gotten. Best of luck to you, but I would highly recommend getting to as many meetings as possible. It worked for me, and for millions of others worldwide just like me.

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#27

Thank you

#28

I would highly recommend getting to as many meetings as possible. You aren't alone in these feelings, and just because I'm not drinking/using doesn't mean that I'm sober. To me, and in my experience, I didn't get "sober" until I went through the 12 steps. It truly changed and saved my life!!

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