Mine is letting my social anxiety go and really getting into aa and genuinely making connections. It was easy when I was drinking š«£š« By far the hardest thing for me. getting tired of the loneliness and venting to my family whom canāt be emotionally there for me anymore.
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Hardest and best part for me--feeling things.
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Crawling out of every relapse where time stands still and praying for the āmore boringā sober timesā¦but for now patience
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My family. They are a custom to me being an intoxicated fool. We are all having issues with my sobriety, I really need to come down off my cross.
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Breaking behavioral habits and distorted thinking patterns that formed in active addiction. And also for me it's actively addressing the the big T's and little T's (trauma work) that may have lead me down the lonely path that was active addiction. What works best is finding YOUR support network. And making yourself your very first priority, because you deserve it!! Big on filling time with hobbies. Positive self talk and daily meditations. 
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Finding everyday life satisfying, no need to escape
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Hardest part is staying sober in āany and all conditionsā. What works for me is jotting down things Iām grateful for and any accomplishments each day- either big or small.
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I miss the buzz. It was a way for me to escape reality and temporarily forget about my problems. I realized my drinking cost me everything and there had to be a way to deal with problems and be happy. I knew I had a problem so, went to A.A. and started talking to other alcoholics. I might not be the happiest right now but, Iām working on it.
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Loneliness ,making those new connections takes time
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The hardest is how weak my sense of self is and my lack of internal boundaries. If someone hints that I've annoyed them or they've judged me negatively, I change my opinion of myself and am deeply ashamed that I bothered them.
I cope with it by remembering several things (so I have to work a lot to recover.) I remind myself that my feelings aren't necessarily a perception of reality, that only one being is my higher power and it ain't them, I feel my feelings and validate them, then do something I know I'll enjoy like reading while listening to music and eating olives (I know, oddly specific and weird, but it works.) I'm learning to create a distance between myself and my emotions. Not to deny them, but to keep them from completely hijacking my day and not confuse them as being my identity when they're only a temporary private psychological event. I don't need to take them so seriously.
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