26 days sober today and I’m in so much pain emotionally, please tell me it gets easier. I’m not understanding it. 
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Well you're feeling your feelings that's what it's all about and you're not using. Learn from them it's going to make you grow. You're going to learn more about yourself than you realize good and bad you're going to find you're amazing without using. Keep turning all your feelings over to God they will get answered.
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Thank you. 
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It will get easier. Just keep reaching out. Stay strong. When not numbing feelings anymore it’s normal to feel overwhelmed but I promise you stay the course it will get better. Build a recovery support network, that’s what helps me. 
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When I first got sober and was attending AA
I was a emotional wreck it seemed like I was outside smiling and fine smoking cigs.
The min it was my turn to speak I would bust out crying I was sure people were sick of it
But every time I received nothing but hugs and advice .
It will get better have no shame in the rooms if your going to meetings share as much as you can and remember we had no shame when using we have all been through it key word is “though”
We got past it you will to!
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Experiencing feelings in sobriety is new and uncomfortable at first.
Hang in there and it will get better.
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One minute at a time if you have to. Stay present and grateful with acceptance. This is where you are today/right now. This too shall pass.
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Hey Sarah , I’m 28 days today so I get it and yeah it does get easy with time .. just always remember 1 day at a time … don’t worry about tomorrow , let’s get through today
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Sarah, if nothing else this temporary pain is worth it because you’re worth it…you’re amazing because you have the courage to make this change. I’m in the same boat, I have 41 days, in a sober house. I’ve lost everything but hope, courage and faith. Be well and keep going.
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Yes and no.
Eventually you’ll learn to not think about it. You’ll figure out who you are.
Think back to when you were younger. What activities did you like?
Hobbies?
Books?
Chances are, you’ll still like them.
The first month or two is always the hardest.
The best thing I was tonight is don’t look at it as forever. Look at it as small sample sizes. 1 week, 2 weeks, 2 months.
Don’t think that this is forever. That’s a scary. Feeling. Even after almost 3 years I do this. I set small goals and celebrate them.
If you ever need someone to just talk about whatever there’s a lot of us on here including me that will listen, about whatever, the weather, what you’re making for dinner, etc it helps. Trust me on
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I promise it gets better you just got to hold on I am a year in 10 months clean
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I’m going to be 
. I’ve only gone to one meeting. My life is really busy and I’m putting sobriety on the bottom of the totem pole. I’m going to attend an online meeting today. I started therapy. I wanted to thank everyone for their support. Something really terrible brought me here. My rock bottom. I have 2 teenagers and the cops were surrounding my home swat style because I put my jeep in the ditch. I don’t ever want my children to see me in that state or have to experience that fear again. Again maybe TMI, but I needed to hear your kind words,
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Give yourself GRACE. This isn't easy. No one says it is. The best thing to do is lean on others for support about anything and everything that's making you upset or uncomfortable. Trust me, everybody really really wants to help! Reach out! Sending you love hugs and prayers 
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It isn’t easy but it does get easier. Like you, I needed a horrible bottom to make me even consider that I might not know exactly how to live life. The good news is we are still here! We are fortunate enough to be gifted an opportunity to be better today! I remind myself constantly that left to my own devices I’m no expert on this thing called life. I don’t know what I’m doing. Today I put my sobriety first and do my best to learn. I make amends to everyone by the way I live today. And amazingly so much that I once fretted over just seems to take care of itself! Hang in there and keep doing the next right thing! It’s not always easy but life will get easier!!
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Emotional pain is real. No doubt. However, only if you allow it to be. It is tough to grasp, but emotions can be real, and yet still untrue. They have deceived us, they have served us at times well and other times miserably.
A big part of being sober is harnessing ones emotions. A big part of that is discovering one's true self. Accepting that person, loving that person. Getting to know and being happy with that person. Alot for day 26 but that's the best advice I have at the moment.
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One day at time. Have you found a sponsor- someone with a year or more of sobriety that has worked the steps and would be happy to show you how this works ?
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Hey there fellow Wisconsinite! You had said you are putting your sobriety on the bottom… it’s my experience that when I did that, I just went right back to drinking. Not right away, but it happened. Sobriety needs to be in the foreground. The easy comes… when you work the program, any program! The fear, embarrassment, shame, that all gets better. When I really worked the steps in AA with a sponsor, and was completely honest with myself and sponsor… things got better. You will get there. The cheesy lines and cliches sound better with time. My favorite one as of late is “meeting makers make it.” Give yourself a break and some grace.
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It does get easier, don’t pick up, get a sponsor, work the steps, attend meetings, and talk about how am you’re feeling.
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It gets easier. For me it was around 90 days that things kinda fell in place and the obsession to get fucked up went away
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I hope you get feeling better very soon Sarah.
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