Hey man, I want you to know that I’m at 14 months and the obsession is lessened with meetings. I just turned 30 and am also looking to find a friend group, it’s tough. Remember the things you like to do, focus on those things, branch out in those interests beyond your fingertips and screen and try to find young people meetings too.
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Yes I know , it’s sooo frustrating!!! Try to remind yourself it will pass and how you will go to bed proud of yourself instead of mad and having to start over again! It starts to get better the more you push past that feeling and don’t give in the easier it gets to keep saying no, remember we are re wiring our brains, and it will take time and everytime we pick up we start it over !
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Stay strong you got this!
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Thanks man, it’s a struggle but I’m not giving up.
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Thank you for the kind words and real talk.
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Sometimes you have to change your environment to change you body and soul. God bless you
The urges get less and less. I try to look at alcohol as no better than cigarettes or junk food. It's something that offers NO benefits and is a waste of time and money. I can have iced tea or a diet coke and that usually does it.
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It’s incredibly frustrating! I often tell my brain to just shut up for 5 minutes. This is my first time on an app talking about this. I typically keep it all to myself. I’ve finally realized I don’t have to do this alone. If you do anything, don’t do it alone. Call someone or post how you are feeling. You’ve got this!!
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Stay strong
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Yeah, I was pretty happy to find this website and how interactive it is with the community. I’m also usually one to just bottle up all my emotions so I can understand what you’re saying with opening up. The sad thing is I Don’t really have anyone to call. I burned so many bridges with my drinking. I’m basically doing this all alone. I’ve gone to multiple meetings, but I don’t know if it’s just the area I live in, but these people are just kind of stuck on themselves, especially if they have some time under their belt 
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Well just don’t drink it didn’t work before it won’t work now
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Talk to your doctor about getting put on naltrexone
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One thing that helps me is letting myself think about it. When I try to berate myself for thinking about it and just try to “be strong” and not think about it, it only makes it worse. Instead I sit down, get quiet, and have a conversation with myself. Ask yourself why you think a drink sounds good at the moment, get curious and see if you can pinpoint what triggered the thought. Then play the scenario out, how will you feel during the night (probably great), how will you feel the next morning (probably like sh*t, disappointed, angry, sad, and physically awful), etc. let yourself feel all of it. Usually by the time I get through this is remember why I don’t want to drink anymore and I feel a stronger connection with myself😊
You’ve got this!
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Good afternoon, David I pray, brother that you move muscle and change your thought. it has worked for me for 23 years and I keep what I have by giving it away.
Sobriety, move muscle change of thought. I was frustrated because I couldn’t understand what they meant.
I was alone, one day thinking about it, and I yelled out I don’t understand and then I realize I was shaking my head while asking the question I got it.
I was moving a muscle, my head and it changed my thought and maybe realize what I was searching for the statement to that question. Move a muscle change of thought.
Since that day, whenever I have a negative thought come in my head I immediately shake my head that is moving a muscle then I visualize me shaking out my head of those negative thoughts then I start putting positive thoughts in my head.
Hopefully this helps God bless you
I hope things have been alright the last couple of days.
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I didn’t make it 
tomorrow is a new day I suppose
I messed up
Either way I just hope that you are well.
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