I know a lot of people say that the 30 day mark is where a lot of people relapse and ever since I had three weeks I am waking up with very intense cravings and no matter what I do I can’t keep my mind from just revolving back to the thought of drinking again. With most of the physical withdrawals gone except some minor shaking still now I’m basically fighting my brain and it’s at that point where it’s like “oh you can have a couple” which I know isn’t true. It’s basically like I’m arguing with my own brain all day and it’s even started affecting my sleep. I’m currently at 27 days.
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It gets quieter. Just keep doing the right thing. Your brains obsessing over it. Writing helps me sometimes and not isolating
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Yeah, it’s pretty weird because the first couple weeks my mind was set that I hated it but when I hit probably day 20 or 21 it’s like my brain totally forgot all the damage it’s caused in my life. It’s been pretty hard for me not to isolate because I basically ruined all my healthy friendships from my drinking. So I’m kind of in the process of trying to find a whole new friend group at 32 which has been a challenge 
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Well you’re doing great. I’m in the same boat to an extent. Just don’t put too much pressure on doing it all in one day. Get a healthy lifestyle going day by day. Once my perspective changed this started getting a little more doable
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Thanks, last week I added the gym into my routine, so hopefully that will help with my perspective on things and give me a healthier mindset 
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Awesome 
gyms great. I started seeking things that involved groups of ppl, where I put myself in their group lol, and once I added that to the line up things def changed. Not drastically but sprinkled some optimism on things. Keep me posted. Have a good workout
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Keeping busy with the gym, a hobby, whatever distracts your mind from the obsessive thoughts and has really helped me. I was the same way. If someone around me was drinking that’s all I could focus on. It sucks. Now it doesn’t bother me as much. It’s a process that takes time. Too much time in our opinions lol. I wished there was a quick fix but there’s not. Don’t give up on yourself. You deserve to be sober and happy
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I didn’t realize how much time and mental energy i was wasting internally negotiating with myself that i could moderate my drinking … it was just a brutal circle of excess and abstinence … i haven’t had to endure that torture for 31 days…yesterday i felt kind of calm come over me & i thought… I’m going to be OK … you’re going to be OK … the Calm is coming …
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See how your brain goes right to “a couple”? Doesn’t go to one. Always plural. My brain thinks a six pack. Never one. I’m an alcoholic that gets a daily reprieve by working a program and avoiding that first drink today.
Thank you for the kind words, how long have you been sober? I have a few hobbies that I’ve been using to keep me busy, but it’s almost like I have to find myself again because for the last decade it’s just been drinking and going wild. Music is a passion of mine, but with my hands still shaking and twitching it’s really frustrating to try to play piano or guitar 
Yeah, we often spend a lot of time thinking about drinking or actually drinking and my issue right now is just arguing with my own brain that it’s not something I can do reasonably.
Yeah, I did notice that once I posted. My tolerance was so high that my brain immediately goes to what I can handle three or four, but in all realness it just needs to be out of my life completely. That’s why I started using this app more because I don’t really have a support group and alcohol is so socially acceptable to what I called the Normies. I didn’t realize how many friendships I had based just off of drinking
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Of course! I’ve been sober just 32 days and counting. I understand. It’s very frustrating but it subsides.
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This makes a lot of sense to me. Stay strong. Just for today! Day 36 for me
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Thank you, congrats on 36 days that’s awesome! Keep up the good work 
Moderation never worked… i broke every rule i ever made for myself… it was only when i committed to sobriety that i was free from all the obsessive thinking about it
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I find it hard to be around people that drink. I threw all my alcohol away in my house
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I agree with that, I went out on a date for dinner and told her I had a drinking problem and she ordered a beer and I restrained myself for that night but the next day I was back to drinking, this was years ago. I’ve been fighting this for a while.
I would HIGHLY recommend getting to an AA meeting sooner rather than later. My alcoholic mind is ALWAYS working against me, and trying to convince me that drinking is a good idea. I felt the exact same way that you feel now. Untreated alcoholism is deadly to a guy like me. I thank God that I had sober support in my life, and that man kept pushing me into AA. It's the ONLY time I've been able to stay sober this long in my entire adult life. It took getting a sponsor, a home group, a service position in that home group, and reading the book Alcoholics Anonymous with my sponsor, and then working the 12 steps in order to recover from this disease! I had to learn that I have a mental obsession with drinking, prayer and daily actions were the ONLY thing that have worked for me to get the almost constant thought of drinking out of my head! Best of luck to you, I hope you stay sober!! 
Not only add it but get really into it. When you start seeing serious results you will not want to lose those. 