I am 7 days sober. I have just come to terms with the fact I have a problem.. Any advice on how to tell my spouse? I know they know, but I have never said it out loud to them..
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Welcome Bree! I told my wife, and now we are getting a divorce. My advice is to be honest with yourself, make that change you know you need to make. It’s more about our actions then what we say. I’ve learned this the hard way. My addiction ruined my marriage. Today, I’m 22-1/2 months sober, working my program of action. Go to an AA meeting. Read the big book, get a sponsor, work the steps, then tell the world how beautiful it is to be sober.
Build a support group that shares your interest in your problem. If you need anything I’m here to help. Happy Monday!
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What he said. Lol. Good advice. Good luck with the spouse. Honesty is always the best.
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Be prepared for his reponse...pray about it first!
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Hi Bree, one of the toughest things is admitting it to yourself. They already know. My family and a few close friends new before I admitted it. Your husband is still there sit down and just tell him. Then tell him you love him and what you intend to do to fix yourself and make things right. Then do it. Put yourself in outpatient therapy. Learn about your addiction. Go to meetings. Read the book Alcohol Explained by William Porter it's easy to read and understand what alcohol does to you to keep you drinking. You can do it. Reach out anytime. I wish you luck on your journey. Again don't be afraid to reach out for support.
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Honey I need help!
Then share with him how you feel after drinking. I hope you get the loving support that will help you on this Journey!
It is wonderful that you have realized this and are reaching out like this!!
Way to go! You got this shit! 
Don’t over think it. You’re going to psych yourself out. 
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If your spouse is a normal drinker then there is a chance he won’t understand what it is you’re going through. This is why AA is still around. It works. It’s for us, the type of alcoholic we are, a problem drinker. Yes, I do agree with a program of honesty. You can let the world know your problems but it’s more about how we handle what reactions we get back from the world. If our expectations are too high or if we have any expectations then we have set ourselves up to fail.
One thing I would have done different which may have saved my marriage was seek the help I needed first then let her know what I’m doing about my problem. I had expectations that she would help me and we all know no human aid can restore us back to sanity.
Please check in with us if you don’t mind. Hope your day is going well!
Tell the truth.