A friend got taken into a facility for abusing and behavioral health. While in there they kept giving them their Xanax and a reup on it for when she got out. The dose she uses is very high so I expected them to work with her. She just said no they were concerned about my drinking. How does a place like that exist with seeing the medication you are on? I went to rehab and I got cut off everything and had to detox and die. The place she was at didn't even give any skills or coping, they colored all day and they are adults. I tried to contact an administrator but it's crickets and it's run by a pretty large group here... She's out and I was on her but making sure she is good. I see her as often as I can because she's alone and the kids were taken... I've cut back to see now if she will reach out. She forgot we had plans on Saturday even though I saw her Friday night. Then I gave her krap but more how could you forget. So now it's since Sunday and it's crickets. I feel that she didn't pursue anything and whatever help I gave and advice fell on deaf ears and wonder if I should even try anymore. She's been put over 2 weeks. She's got legal battles with her kids that I was even going to use some of my counsel to help. She was told she needs outpatient and all this stuff but I don't think she's doing it. Also list her lisence so it's not like she's just cruising around. I know I'll be fine but will she........
I checked into a rehab 4 months ago and checked out 72 hours later because it was horrible. They wouldn't let me leave, either. Not all treatment centers are quality places.
As far as your friend, you can only do so much. Xanax is alcohol in pill form. All you can do is ask the police for a wellness check if you feel a real concern for her life. You can't make her want to get better. All you can do is focus on your recovery and be there if/when she decides to get serious. I'm sorry.
If you're making yourself available and providing insight into her situation, responsibility needs to be reciprocated there. It's very difficult to see a friend making the same bad choices, but besides caring for her and making that well known, there is no good to come from making her problems yours. Pearls before swine isn't just wastful. It can get you trampled.
It sounds like as a friend you have reached out and done your part the ball is in her court now to accept the help
I am sorry John but I’m feeling much like the others in this. My intuition can be fallible but my sense is there is too many unknowns for us to know about your friend. What we do know is it has been very important to you. I’m certain you can learn more about John in this situation. Sometimes the most we can do for others is to take care of ourselves.
I've been on both sides of this scenario.. Your friend isn't ready to get her issues sorted out and doesn't seem like her priorities are aligned with your s
It doesn't mean that person doesn't value or welcome your interactions. Now that I'm not using find a lot of my previous acquaintances have no true interest in ever living a productive happy life some people thrive in caos