Does anyone else have a hard time going to AA? Am I just in denial? There is just something about it that I don’t like.
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I go to AA online meetings.
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Alcohol doesn’t want us well, keep going to different meetings and it will eventually click. I liked the fellowship more then the program at first and I relapsed the first time after 14 months but realized I need to do the program also. Now I have 5 years. Just keep going no matter what u think and the change will happen. Good luck
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Go to secular AA meetings if you're able. They are less rigid
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Well my sponsor told me to just shut up and listen for me and listen to the message and that's what I had to do so that I would keep going back to AA meetings they have helped me leave the plug in the jug
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If what you’re doing is giving you good results then don’t go to AA.
However, if it’s not working and you’re tired of the merry go round try AA. Even if you’re not wild about it. Try 90 meetings in 90 days. If it’s not working then stop going.
Remember, nothing changes if nothing changes. We want change but don’t really want to do anything different. 
Try NA. Younger crowd. More raw. After all, alcohol is a drug also.
I have never been a fan of AA either. The meeting type setting doesn’t really work for me. Having a community is nice though
Hi Courtlyn, For the first 8 months of sobriety in went to meetings out of obligation. I really didn’t like. Something changed along the way and I started enjoying it more. And then I actually got to know some people and it got to be more comfortable. On the days ( like today) that I don’t want to be around people so I find a zoom meeting to attend.
Find a group of people trying g to stay sober and hang out with them. Whatever that looks like to you. But don't put too many restrictions on what it should or shouldn't be or you'll never find anything.
Celebrate Recovery
Sometimes meetings get "sick"....sometimes meetings in whole areas get "sick". What I mean is...they lose track of their primary purpose...to carry the message to those still suffering.
Sometimes they evolve into a substitute for therapy...Sometimes a substitute for social gathering for alcoholics.
Sometimes they become a dumping ground for the courts alcoholism problem.
Fact of the matter is...AA doesn't pretend to be for everyone. There are other ways to stay sober....other programs that also work. AA works for those that are desperate enough.
How desperate is enough? Only you can answer that.
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I think that summed up my thoughts perfectly.
Been sober 38+ years through those meetings I used to hate.
Thank you for telling me that it really gave me some good insight.
If you don't like the meeting(s) you've been going to.....start your own....in the format that suits you. If it's viable...others will follow. More meetings have been started over dissatisfaction and resentment than any other way! Do t give up on meetings....make them how you think they should be made.....
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I find that I am comfortable the more I go and the less I listen to the dogma while focusing more on our shared stories and experiences.
Don't be afraid or feel out of place...or inferior...or that your opinion doesn't count. Become a home group member....take part in the group conscience...help shape the meetings. Become involved.
Better yet...study the Traditions...especially the long form. (If you do..You'll suddenly find yourself interested...and others will start to listen to you.
Start a new meeting in place that needs one. All the info you need to do that is available online for free at AA.org
This sobriety thing can be the most exciting event of your life....or it can be a litany of drudgery. It's up to you.
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I feel the same way, haven’t been to a AA meeting in years, so much judgment. Try Smart Recovery they have a different approach. PM if you ever want to talk.