About to end all my old friendships and call people out for all the chatter that happens when I’m not around due to me not drinking. Why is it I have to justify so hard that I’m just not interested in drinking! Because I’m didn’t have a rock bottom? Because my life IS in order? Because I grew up and out and they choose not to?
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Should you cut the toxic relationships off.. absolutely. But, calling people out and tossing out accusations and blame isn’t going to accomplish anything. Your sobriety is your own. You don’t owe an explanation to anyone. The old saying “ those that matter don’t mind, those that mind don’t matter” is true. Change is hard for the week willed. Good luck to you.
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Agree 100%
Some levity: your cat looks like it's about to violate your treadmill! 
I’m in recovery at all I just choose not to drink due to health reasons
I don’t beat around the bush
I speak my mind
They have the wrong girl
I'd recommend reading The Four Agreements by Ruiz. It's not "program related" but might have some good insights for you.
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Well good luck to you. I truly hope you get the results you are looking for.
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I’ll agree with Tim on this one. Call it a day, get new friends (or don’t) and move forward. Whether you’re drinking because you’re an addict or because you have health issues, you don’t have to justify anything to anyone. And if you’re “friends” want to be indifferent then let them be. No reason for you to get hyped up over it. Put all that energy into something more positive!
Enjoy your journey. 
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My favorite activity to engage with, with toxic people is...ghosting. I will ghost someone so fast it is scary. Be toxic for me. Be active in working against me. I am like Casper in a minute.
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You don’t have to justify, do your thing and live your beautiful life 
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I literally declined a dinner party invite because I knew it was going to have toxic people present and endless alcohol pouring. It’s okay to say no and it sucks that people push you to party. I feel lonely on my journey because I don’t have sober friends… I get it. It’s like you wanna start from scratch and with people that like to do things that involve getting shitty all the time.
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Cut toxic and nob- relevant people out of your life. You don't need to explain anything.
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Ignore them. Tell them that you’re staying sober and you’re going to AA meetings and they will run away from you.