How do you know if you should reach out to someone and make amends? I’m worried I’m feeling the need to relive some trauma that has long since passed. The longer I stay sober the more these feelings arise in me. I could use some perspective. Thanks.
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I ran any questionable amends by my sponsor & let him make the decision if I should make the amends. Best of luck. Hope it goes well for you & u find peace with it either way.
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I think that’s a great idea
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I do believe you just answered your question, if you feel the need you should do it! The reason we do this it's not so much to appease the other person but to release yourself from guilt or something else good luck stick with it
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If you choose to follow the big book and 12 steps it talks about this exact question.
if there’s no backlash or consequences of reaching out then I say go for it !! it’s not necessary for the other person but to heal yourself and what you went thru during that time.
My sponsor told me if it’s dangerous to reach out then write it all down on paper and then burn it on fire, or rip it up and just throw it away. I hope you can let go of what’s bother you and heal from this.
Sending you peace and healing (。·ω·。)ﾉ♡
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