This evening I reached out to a friend who I went to high school with. The past few years he has been struggling staying off drugs (meth) he had been doing well and had a slip up. His girl threw him out he been on the streets for the past few weeks. He had a slip up. Said he was out in front of a grocery store charging his phone. Asked him if there was anything I could do to help. He asked for a place to stay for the night. I went and picked him up, When I picked him up he was spinning like a top. I’ll never judge. Because we all have been there. He’s still in denial. I told him that a friend of mine works at a short term detox clinic. He said I don’t need that. Offered to take him to a recovery meeting. Says he doesn’t need it. Says he’s been off drugs for a year. But smokes weed daily. To me sobriety is being totally sober. No pill, no weed, no alcohol, no drugs. Unless you are proscribed something from a doctor and your sponsor knows it. Anyway sorry for the rant. I picked him up, bought him a meal, took him to a hotel, paid for his room for the night. Just pray he gets his stuff together. Was I in the wrong here? Just felt that it was the right thing to do.
We carry the message not the addict. You did the right thing in assisting a friend. Ultimately it is up to them to want help. We can no more force them to want it than we could be forced to want it.
It is “attraction rather than promotion”. Good job being of service and carrying the message.
No but dude didn’t have a lil slip that’s not true looking at the obvious
You helped an addict and it kept you sober
Thank you all for the support and encouragement. I just want to help as much as I possibly can. When I did my first step study I was told that I will be given tools for free, and that one day you will return the favor to another person. I now know what that means. He asked me how many years I have been sober… my response was all I got is today my friend. The more I’m around folks that have had the struggles we have had, sometimes it feels like a competition. So I been saying I got today
You did Great great friend
You are very kind and he’s lucky to have you as a friend and you are very smart for keeping healthy boundaries and taking care of you because there’s only so much you can do if somebody doesn’t want to really get sober and get out of there denial. No judgment but you did good.
I think you did the right thing.
Great job. Keep praying for him
Yes , you're very kind , There's not much you can do for your friend, It sounds like he is still in his disease , Denial stage , one two many and thousands too much, I'm finding that ala-non is helping me deal with those issues in my life, where I think I can save every one that I run into on daily basis,
Good morning Ben if he is not willing to go to detox, unfortunately, all you can do is pray for him.
Lead by example, try not to push anything on him. Just share with the program has done for you. Remember, it’s about attraction rather than promotion.
Hopefully he reaches his bottom and then you can take him to detox
What is his first name and I will pray for him
Thank you once again for the kind words. I know from experience that he won’t do get help until the bottom. Talked to his dad yesterday, apparently he’s been at the bottom for a while. I said to his dad the only thing we can do is pray. His name is James. And thank you for offering prayers. That will mean a lot to his family.
I will pray for James my best friend of 17 years after having four years clean and sober. He went back out and then 13 years later overdosed we will pray that you buddy James is one of the ones that make it. God bless you and James.