After 2 failed marriages… I’m questioning my purpose… I owned up, stepped up and moved forward… yet fell so worthless i don’t know what to do… drinking isn’t an option. 
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Don’t give up. Consider it a learning curve to be a better version of you. Make this your time to shine 
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Your purpose isn’t defined by relationships with others, but your relationship with yourself. I struggle with it daily. You stepped up, that was in your control and that alone is an accomplishment. Keep going.
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It's always darkest before the dawn. Sobriety is our ticket to happiness. We have a gift. Let's focus on the positive.
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Remember in a marriage it takes two to tango! Give yourself grace and keep moving forward!
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Thank you all for the words of encouragement
Been there, myself. You are not worthless.! Self love is the antidote.
I took a solo cross country trip . Best thing I’ve ever done for myself.
I just did a second 4th step mostly on my second failed marriage. I was sober through that entire marriage but I had to clean my side of the street. Feeling better. Not perfect, but better
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Two failed marriages myself, not proud of it but now 4 years sober. It takes longer than we would like but things do get better. Found a new girlfriend of six months who is sober also. Hang in there.
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I read something today that resonated w/ me, being in very similar circumstances and realizing good s3x has kept in some bad relationships ...
AUTHENTIC SELF
Please keep looking. Not for a person. But for your passion, your courage, your goals, your happiness and YOURSELF. Keep looking, explore yourself before you explore others and know your worth. Become your authentic self. The one that you have buried beneath other people's needs...
Thoughts???. Hit home 4 me which is why I been single last 3 yrs and still not looking.
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You aren't born with a "purpose". None of us are. Our purpose is what we make it. A lot of time it seems we as humans adopt the purpose of others, marry, have kids, buy a house etc etc. That's the usual formula but it doesn't always work out for all of us because we aren't all the same. Our needs are complex, and not as simple as some cookie cutter nonsense that is sold to us all out lives. You have a chance at a new, sober life. You can do anything you want (within reason obviously). Live your new life and let our purpose find you, organically.
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I like that. Thank you