I can only speak for myself and that’s a No !!!! I tried it and it never works out well .. But everyone is different.. If you have to ask that then your relationship with Alcohol cannot change ..
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Speaking for myself and my experience; no or very unlikely. There is Smart recovery which is CBT based which infers that after years of recovery / therapy we may be able to drink in safety
Not a good combination to have a head full of AA / recovery and a belly full of booze
Makes for even worse thinking, for me.
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To answer your question, it’s usually a no. I’ve seen very few people in my personal life as well as patients in my career that have been able to do that. It’s possible, but very rare and risky cause you don’t know if you’re gonna be able to til you try, and if you try, and don’t manage it, you’re repeating the cycle. If you’re one of the very few that do get to where you can have one or two and stop, then ok, but it’s always gonna be risky. So many things play a part in it that sometimes we don’t always think of in the moment.
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I used to think once I got all the law out of my life I could use again and maybe responsibly, but it never worked out and I always went back down that hole u kno? And I lost everything all over again 2-3 times, before it just finally clicked. Kinda like a all or nothing kinda thing, like I just can’t have any of it u kno? It all leads to the same places, jails institutions or death.. be safe!
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Only speaking for myself, and it’s a hard no. HECK NO in that matter. And that’s ok with me. The lifestyle I have now is far better than any I had while drinking “casually” or while I was a “heavy” drinker. For me it’s either everything or nothing. And I’ve chosen everything. Personally (just my opinion) I feel that once a person recognizes they have a “problem”, that control is gone. You can no longer control life and either drugs or alcohol will do it for you. It’ll be a constant up and down. 
Maybe some people can do it, but the ones I know who can, haven’t ever had a problem with drinking to begin with.
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I have tried this many times. I find it's controlled for a bit but over time it slips in more and more until I find myself back where I started once again. Theb the cycle starts over... lol I quit... I talk myself into a glass with dinner... to again regret for becoming the person I don't want to be again.
Over the last 20 years I find myself recognizing that this cycle can continue my whole life. Spending my whole life in a relationship of power. Take some back give some...
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It’s only important that we’re in the meetings.
If we’re sober, we’re the meetings. If we’re not sober, we’re the meetings. The only requirement to be in that meeting is a desire. In actuality, there is no status, which means the chip system is not in our Literature. All we have is today. Don’t you love when fellow members, who describe their long-term sobriety as “I have a few 24 hours”? That is true humility. See you in the meetings!
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It's easy to convince ourselves that this time we will be okay but it never does end well does it?
Katie
I read your post again. Apparently I didn't read it very well the first time. You say you went out two times and didn't drink until you passed out and the one time you only had one drink.
I can't say that I've ever had that experience. I can't think of one time in my life where I drank and I didn't get completely intoxicated.
There were periods of time in the beginning which were few where I didn't drink at all but every time I did drink it never ended very well. And it progressively got worse. In the last years of my drinking I pretty much drank everyday and blackouts were a common thing with me.
I have something for you to read in my next comment below that comes from the big book of AA.
Big Book of AA
Chapter 3
MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM
Most of us have been unwilling to admit we were real alcoholics. No person likes to think he or she is bodily and mentally different from others. Therefore, it is not surprising that our drinking careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove we could drink like other people.
The idea that somehow, someday he or she will control and enjoy their drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death.
We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed.
We alcoholics are men and women who have lost the ability to control our drinking. We know that no real alcoholic ever recovers control.
All of us felt at times that we were regaining control, but such intervals - usually brief - were inevitably followed by still less control, which led in time to pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization.
We are convinced that alcoholics of our type are in the grip of a progressive illness. Over any considerable period we get worse, never better.
We are like people who have lost their legs; they never grow new ones.