They’re not in any recovery program, but most of them work on themselves. I’ve lost or dropped the superficial friends who only cared about where the next party was,…or they were just negative, gossiping types…toxic. Did you find this transition as well?
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You definitely learn who your real friends are when you decide to take your life back and join sobriety. That's for sure!
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I didn’t have very many close friends anyway, but the group I would “hang out with” has started to implode. I had cut them off a year ago, and recently heard they were all having affairs, three couples are now getting divorced, they are being isolated by the rest of the group, one guy got his mistress pregnant, the nasty rumors and mud slinging has been going on for two months, and the drunken black outs continue with them…it is a complete sh!t show. Thank god I got sober when I did. I would have been in the middle of that whole circus.
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I stopped drinking for 7 years — at first I made up tons of excuses why I wasn’t drinking. Then I slowly started telling people “I can’t drink” or “I’m really good at drinking and really good at not drinking — but horrible in the middle.” Zero people judged me. I’m blessed but I think more than we realize don’t judge.
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This is exactly what’s happening! It’s funny/not funny. I steer clear of drama now. 
Former Tasmanian Devil here.
Yeah. It is kinda sad to see it all now that I am sober.
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I see it with my brother and his family, especially. I “broke free” and with the recovery and clarity can see how the alcoholism has really manifested as anger oozing out in my nephews’ behaviors: getting kicked out of schools, addicted to pot, failing high school, being known on the hockey team for most penalties for checking kids hard (but justifying it)….I’m really glad my eldest didn’t hang out much and get mixed up in that.
I'm struggling with this right now. I feel like I am in the in between. I have left behind some friends who just care about partying but now I'm trying to meet new people. I'm trying to be strong also to be around my close friends who still do drink and not feel pressured.
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I moved to a new state .no friends or family.got sober grew up .after many years.saved my life.
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I have found that in recovery my standards have changed. I like to be around people who are continually being conscious of their decisions and striving to be a good person.
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I like that!
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It’s nice to listen to other peoples problems.. for a moment I forgot my own. Glad they are not your problems anymore 
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That has always worked for me too
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Having a social life intertwined with an addiction sure adds an extra layer of complexity to changing your habits.
I was always able to get clean when I moved away from here since I had no ‘connects’ in the new location and, thankfully, I also would not seek them out.
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To me that transition is imperative. As I was taught you will become like those you hang around.
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Good for you
Keep going strong
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Friends come and go. I rather be alone than deal with petty stuff. I barely leave myself available for people who are not sufficient.
Same here
Lost most of the people that I’ve knew when I stop drinking
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It is painful going through it, but I can see, on the other side, what a blessing it was to distance myself from the ball and chain the anchor had on me being around them.
Feel the same way,I feel free to be able to reconstruct my life is amazing
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