Angry and those who caused me harm

In struggling with being angry towards the people who have caused me harm, even in moments where i feel i did nothing wrong. I was too little to do wrong

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being hurt by people who were supposed to protect you can leave a lot of anger behind. How are you working through it?

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Gabrielle, I feel you! For too long I carried that toxic anger. It ate my up from the inside out.
The people that I was angry with were mostly oblivious to my anger. So I had to let that shiiiitttt go! I learned through the 12 steps of AA how to let go, forgive and move on. The 12 steps empowered me way beyond my expectations. I now have the power to choose my thoughts and feelings. I just want to feel good. That’s why I drank and drugged for decades. I’m free from all that.
I’m here if you want to talk or have any questions

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Today I’m in the program. I have a sponsor and I’m working steps and I’m also in weekly therapy and doing EMDR.
But like my therapist told me, it’s gonna get harder before it gets easier.

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Thank you so much Danny! I spoke about it in a meeting last night and they had some really positive feedback so I’m just gonna keep showing up and see what happens through my higher power, the steps and this program.

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It's called resentment, u must let it go

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It takes time tho , don't be too hard on yourself

Live in the moment today. I try not to let them hurt me anymore be holding on to it and I understand it isn’t easy.

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Numbing yourself to those feelings is easy. Having the courage to let it go (and them go if needed) canb e found by doing the work in the 12 step programs. You learn to fix yourself and your mistakes. You find out many of the things you did were reactions when you were not thinking correctly. Bad decisions compound over and over. You choose to heal. To do the work. Set your expectations at zero for other people, places and things. Learn "no" is a complete sentence. Learn to accept other people may be doing the best they can. Learn to be of service and sleep every night easier in recovery the we did in action. Simple, small, better decisions compound over time. You become someone solid and honest and hardworking and unbreakable eventually. Waking up on a Sunday morning watching the sunrise with a cup of coffee and being at peace is priceless.

Gabrielle, good on you! You deserve to be free and happy. I had to be proactive and make my destiny. You can too.
Giving away my gifts is how they keep coming back to me. Im here for you, so don’t be shy. This is how it works :facepunch: