Any advice for me since I’m struggling … I’ve went to a few meetings last few days but honestly it’s not doing it for me ..
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Going to meetings on their own will do NOTHING for the real alcoholic/addict. I could never understand how sitting in a room for an hour, listening to people whine, would help me stop drinking. It doesn't. Need to get a sponsor and work the 12 steps, as well as getting a service commitment like making coffee or help setting up the meeting. If you do all 3 of those things, I can guarantee your life will get better
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What are you struggling with? Do you want to live a healthy happy and substance-free life?
I get it. I struggle every day but I dont know a thing about your situation to be able to have any advice, perspective etc.
ok so I been mia a few and sleep been non existant so forgive me. Just read past posts, I see.
Does wife know anything about addiction? How old is your kid? Mine are 16 and 17 and I speak to him honestly and openly about every aspect of my addiction. My past mistakes Etc. I think sometimes it makes them feel a bit ashamed of me however I want them to know they can speak to me about anything without judgment from me. I do feel that is the case.
My ex-wife will never understand my addiction although she didn't live a sober life. Some people tend to sit in Judgment of others while some refuse to. That was the difference between her and I. Crazy enough when we met we went to Raves and did ecstasy every weekend. She was a self-professed agnostic and that was my only issue.
Not every person is "our person" for forever. That is a sad and scary truth. Your child needs you however and how will they know they can overcome a problem if daddy doesnt show them. The same is true with us and our higher power. If He hadnt proved me wrong, without failure and consistently for the past 43 years of my life, I dont know that I would have the faith nor strength I do now. Each day I awake I am a bag and needle away from relapse and possible death.
My daughter is about to turn a year old on sept 9th
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Jay, I do not know what you are struggling with precisely(?)…while meetings are not for everyone.
( Stating the obvious, I realize )?!
I go sporadically.
Here and there.
Months pass before I go to one.
I am not complacent.
I have found other options, avenues which have helped me to remain sober for over a year and a half…I have not a thing against meetings…simply not for everyone.
How are you doing right now?
Every time I started drinking again the only common denominator was the lack of meetings. But I also enjoy and get something out of every meeting I attend, so that's why they work for me. It took me several meetings to find the one that I enjoy, so maybe try a few more. 
Congratulations on your daughter. What’s got you down or thinking down? Reach out always around
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The Dream. The Struggle. And the Prize. I'm in agreement that you're DRINKING AND USING CAREER HAS BEEN RUINED. And your recovery process will become REAL FOR YOU
Yes!! We MUST work the Steps!
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Build yourself a recovery team. Meetings for me weren’t enough. I have a counselor, a recovery coach, sober friends and to Early Recovery Meeting weekly. You need more. Stay strong.
Smart move, checking in and telling on yourself. I’d go to more meetings, meet my sponsor, do step work, hangout with sober friends, and do service work.
Keep telling on yourself! We stay clean no matter what!
You can do this!!!!
In early recovery I did everything and anything except drink: talk to other sobers online, walking, walking other people’s dogs, read quit lit, cleaned, light exercise, wrote stuff down, went shopping (not advisable but sometimes it does the trick), started to go to meetings just to break up my evenings, ate ice cream, slept, rested, just anything except drink.