Anybody else really struggle with loneliness/lack of support? I have

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Anybody else really struggle with loneliness/lack of support? I have a wonderful partner who is supportive in a lot of ways, but seems to be in denial about my need to get sober… he gets angry and sad if I get drunk because then I’m not a present partner (which is totally valid and I understand that reaction), but he also encourages me to “just have a few drinks” when we go out with friends and blows off me saying I need to stop. He doesn’t seem to get that having a couple of drinks is a terrifying game of roulette for me every time because I genuinely don’t know if it’ll be a chill couple of drinks or a blackout and I hate being in that position.

Honestly at this point the stress and dread surrounding drinking are worse than any hangover.

I know the obvious solution is just having better boundaries and staying sober… I guess I’m just a people pleaser who needs to start prioritizing my own mental health.

Anyway. Just venting because I’m sad, scared, and lonely and I can’t keep doing what I’m doing.

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#2

When you partner enables your drinking, you have to have the courage to quit for yourself

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#3

Amen

#4

You have to stop on your own. It's very clear that he's enabling you.

#5

Yes, setting those boundaries can be the difference between life and death. He very much may not understand that. I think a lot of normies do not grasp that concept. I had friend's and family who couldn't. But I also couldn't verbalize those boundaries strongly enough for them. They, too, had their own substance and codependency issues. We have to be very clear and dole out consequences if those boundaries are crossed. Only we are responsible for our sobriety. No one can make us drink or keep our sobriety for us.

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