Anyone else finding that the hardest part of sobriety isn’t quitting alcohol, but rebuilding a social life? Would love to connect with people who get it.
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Welcome, Rob. You’re in the right place for that. And yes, rebuilding a social life was challenging but as I kept pushing my boundaries it got easier. Glad you reached out.
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Definitely harder cuz I can't personally go back to the drinking world and not drink so I'm way more comfortable and have way more fun when I'm hanging out with sober people. I'm also in Tennessee which I don't fit into it all looking to get out when I sell my house lol
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Rob, merry Christmas. Built my new social life by going to lots meetings and getting numbers from sober folks I admired. Also gave my number to newcomers and actually texted or called them.
Lots of service gave me the opportunity to know good people. It was new adventures that had deeper purpose.
I’m here if you want to talk or have any questions
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Part of rebuilding your life may be letting go of some of the things you once did.
That may include some of the people that made things harder for you.
Sometimes being alone is tough, especially during the holidays.
But it also gives one the space to work on themselves.
To share and care for those like you.
Understanding that sometimes loneliness is where change can happen within yourself.
And I get that is easier said than done many days. I struggle with it too.
There are many sober/clean activities out there.
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Dude I have zero friends I totally get it and I work from home so im basically alone I'm thinking of getting a part time job just to be around people.
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I'm not thinking on a social life right now . I'm in the word and seek Yah (God) daily. That's where my time goes to . I'm happy for once in my life.
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Hi Rob. I totally feel this one. I've been lucky - my core friend group stopped drinking around me for the most part when I quit tho I never asked them too. I avoided social outings for a while when i first quit. Then I started learning what worked for me. I realized that having a beverage in my hand at social functions is key - a Starbucks drink, ginger ale etc. And leaving the function before things get crazy. As I've gotten more confident I've learned to branch out and try new activities on my own without drinking and hopefully that'll lead to making new friends. Happy holidays if you celebrate and you always have your friends here on loosid 
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Yes
The only time I talk to people is at an AA meeting
If I’m not at a meeting I’m alone watching tv
That’s not good
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Go to a meeting
During my first year or two, I struggled with not having a social life but I got connected with some of my AAs in another state and partied sober. It was a good time. I've been out several times with friends that aren't in AA because they don't have the disease or don't drink and I enjoyed myself. Anytime I socialized, I checked in with my sponsor first, had a solo exit strategy and NEVER hung out with my old crew (They drank like I did). Always check your intent for socializing. Mine was always to get fkd up but now, it actually for the experience.
I went to an AA conference in March of this year... Wow, I turnt up for real! 2-days, 800 recovery folks, tons of workshops and speakers during the day, a RAVE, masquerade ball and meetings at night. Gonna go again next year. YPAA groups do events all the time; camping, rafting, dances, movie nights, etc. If you're in AA/NA it's easy to find the information on groups for your state.