Anyone ever feel good about where they are but than randomly get flash backs of the stupid things you have said or did when you were drinking? How do you all cope with that. Will it ever go away?
I can remember those types of things before I started drinking. The memories come and go. You just going to face it that none of us are perfect. If it helps as AA says you can apologize to those people.
I can be doing fine, feeling great, life is good. Next thing you know, I’m anxious or bummed and not a dam thing has changed. Circumstances are the same but my mood has drastically changed. That’s my addiction trying to trick me into thinking that I’m not ok. My addiction still pops his head up when I’m doing great sometimes. But if I recognize him, I can reframe or talk to someone or something.
I fixed all that stuff by getting into the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous with a sponsor. When I got into the 4th step I took an inventory of myself. I made amends to people that I had harmed and I also learned how to forgive myself. Many people today are just quitting drinking but they're not really getting to the root of the problem. That's why most people can't stay sober for very long.
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I do that with stuff all the way back to childhood. Just had to learn to say "Yup, that was dumb." And move on.