Anyone have a significant other that wont stop. I haven't had a drink in over 2 years, i know its selfish of me to keep asking her to stop. Any advise?
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Sobriety is a selfish program. Passed experience… I can’t be with people who drink. Is it working for you, I guess is the question. Maybe run it by your sponsor
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Hi Greg. Is your wife a social drinker, or does she drink like an alcoholic?
She uses going out as an excuse to drink. But if she doesn't go out she'll drink probably 4 days a week
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First things first…congratulations on 2 years of sobriety! Relationships can be very challenging. Many people will have different opinions on this. I do know people in recovery that have significant others that drink. I know other couples that are both sober. I have seen both situations work, as well as fail. Regardless of how you move forward, I suggest you continue to build your sober life, and watch out for resentments. It’s good that you are chatting about it here. Do you have a sponsor and/or a support group? These are great things to discuss with others. In my situation, I’m all in for the long run…but I wasn’t always. That’s not to say I’m happy about it all the time. Somewhere along the line we agreed to support each other’s journeys. She supports my sobriety and life journey the best she can, and I support the way she chooses to handle her journey. It’s taken a lot of pain and work (and love) to get where we are today. Sorry I don’t have more advice other than to work on your sobriety and watch out for resentments. I didn’t do either and had a horrible relapse some years ago.
I appreciate that it's definitely been a journey. No I don't have a sponsor I was part of a intensive outpatient program. But I have moved on from that. I just want to partner that enjoys life. I enjoy hiking biking anything outdoors and I want to share that with somebody. She would rather sit home not always drinking but sometimes. I have always put everybody else in front of me. I think it's my turn to be happy. I never have the urge to drink anymore, even at my worst moments and the heaviest triggers I can't it will kill me. I made the decision to quit drinking when the doctor told me I had 3 months to live. I was in full blown liver failure.
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Greg , I suggest ya keep it slow on her and keep talking to her with patience. I’m sure she will put a stop to it . It is a gradual process, so please do it with lotta patience.
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I feel for you. I’m going through this myself. I’ve been sober since 8/2/2025 when I found out I was expecting. My partner agreed to join me in sobriety and I just learnt he’s been doing it behind my back. I wish I have the answers you are looking for, but all I can offer is support and understanding. I don’t think it’s a selfish ask, if it’s important to you and your sobriety she should respect that
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I only kept drinks just in the garage when I stopped and said I didn’t care…but honestly it turned into more my husband never really had a problem… but I do think it bothered me more than I consciously knew cuz there should be more respect getting sober even when it’s ur own journey
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