Anyone in the south jersey area know of any good groups? I’ve been to a couple so far but can’t seem to find a good fit. Maybe I just need to keep at it but suggestions are more than welcome
Hi, my name is Scott and I live in Central Jersey Exit 102. I feel your pain regarding a good fit. My goal back when I was searching for a place was to goto 2 mtgs a day within a 15 mile radius for 2-3 weeks. My first mtg I picked up the AA mtg book and started my journey. Some mtgs I could tell right off the bat this is not for me. Never to return to that mtg. But after a few days and different formats, open / closed mtgs, speakers and hearing peoples struggles and success stories I started to relate a lot better to the groups. And yes, I finally found a morning mtg that I loved until Covid had to go and screw us up. We did not need any help from the outside is screwing up because we could do that all on our own. Also, I found a night mtg and a Saturday night mtg that only met once a week. Ok, to that end enough of my bs, but you need to try different mtgs and write down likes and dislikes and like a recipe it all comes together. And before you know it you’ll be the one making the coffee. (Hardest job to get in AA). And when you feel comfortable you will raise your hand and say Hi, I’m Justin and I’m an Alcoholic / Addict (example only I have no clue) and that my friend was my hardest and biggest step to recovery is admitting to a group of people that you don’t even know love and support you and long as you walk into the room. And look for the empty chair in the middle of the room for the person that is missing the mtg. I hope this helps you a little and I’m open to talking if you like. I wish you well. It’s one day at a time and remember this is about You. Take care
Where at in S. Jersey?
Thank you Scott. I really appreciate all of the insight. I have a few new meetings I wanna still try this week and I think I’ll revisit some of the ones I’ve already gone to and maybe I’ll get a different perspective. Thanks again
It’s got to be the right fit in order for it to work. I’m not telling you anything that you don’t know. That’s just my point of view and you don’t have to agree or disagree with it. Because at meetings I always say, you don’t have to agree but give me the courtesy / respect as a person. I don’t mean to over step, but are you an Alcoholic, Addict or Both. You don’t have to answer if you don’t want to.