As i go through this currently, id really love to see how others do it.
Well. It wasn’t easy for me at first. But when I started working the steps and got to 4. I finally started to lift up the curtain and truly started to forgive myself
I realized I was not that special. Once I surrendered to myself I felt free. And wanted to know more. For the first time in a long time i felt like I woke up to infinite possibilities that I thought were closed off by my EGO. I am at peace with my past and have givin it all up to my Higher Power that was there the whole time !
Well in step 9 of the Big Book first look at yourself in the mirror an forgive yourself because your are a person an nobody did more damage to us than we did to our self's an our story is the biggest asset to helping other's , it took a long time to realize this ...
Through therapy and a 12-step program, I'm beginning my healing journey to work on my codependency and disorganized attachment. This is where my book begins and the rest is still unwritten.
Some great answers above 
Do not regret the past
