At this point I just need guidance

As I tend to occasionally do, I have let something minor have a major impact on my mind. I shared some encouragement and a few scriptures, to let them know they weren’t alone, on here a few days ago and I was just blown away when I found that someone commented, reaming me and telling me that what I was saying could be harmful. He basically suggested that I should lead a meeting before commenting and it really, really discouraged me and made me angry. People shouldn’t need a degree or a certificate or even experience to share encouragement. Actually, that is how I stay sober!! When there’s nothing more I can do for myself, I go out and help. I have been studying the Bible avidly, three days a week for almost two years and one thing I’ve learned is that there is more happiness in giving than receiving. I’ve also learned to put everyone before myself just like Jesus did and spend every chance I get spreading the great things that are found in the Bible. Without it, I can’t fathom how life would’ve been for me, and there’s so many people out there without it that are begging for help, begging for the truth. So for someone to tell me that it is wrong?!? I was so happy to find this community, but I didn’t join to receive negative public criticism. In fact, on the subject of what is harmful, this hurt me pretty badly. It didn’t help that he chose not to respond to my explanation and questions. Please, someone level with me because I can’t figure it out on my own at this point.

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I'm sorry you feel discouraged, but I'd prolly need a little more context. Maybe try not to take the comments personally as people post and comment at free will. If you feel happy and have accomplished what your intended purpose was, then leave it at that. Everyone has an opinion about everything, right?... :woman_shrugging:

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Catastrophizing it’s what us addicts do. Stay in your own lane man a million small things Happen in a day if you let them tear you down you’ll never be able to stand up and keep moving forward. I suggest and not saying reading the the Bible is bad you do you brother but for sobriety and staying on that path there’s a 164 pages. Big book big book big book. Good luck stay sober if you really want it grab it and run with it and never look back

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Thanks for your comment. I just wanted to be sure that I actually wasn’t doing something that could be harmful. I’ll try to paste my comment here. That’s all I’m mostly concerned about. Also, is this app only exclusive to AA? I was under the impression that it was a resource for all addicts.

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Thank you Sean. Usually I handle the big things with ease, little things as well but occasionally I get snagged on a rock and it takes a while to get going again lol. I saw a post where someone was beating themselves up because they feel like a good person but still do bad things. The main thing I shared with this person was the fact that one of the writers from the Bible, Paul, wrote about experiencing the same exact thing. I wanted him to know that it’s been going on for thousands of years and he’s not alone. I find a lot of useful information in both the big book and the good book. In this particular instance I referred to the good one. I found so many answers during step two, because it led me to the answers to questions that hit the root cause. The Bible’s principles transformed me and didn’t just save me from addiction, it saved me from everything. Our country began using the same principles as the foundation for society. I don’t know what it was like back then, but in a society that frowns upon the Bible for whatever reason, I mean look around. Almost everybody is lost or sick. The big book is wonderful, there’s nothing bad to be said about it, but it wasn’t written by people that were divinely inspired by a higher power. Therefore, the Bible was basically written by God himself. I guess my point is that there shouldn’t be an issue with the moral and ethical aspects of it being offered to others as a potential solution. Both books widely share the same intention.

This is the comment that I posted. The author of the post was expressing guilt, so that’s what led me to write:

If you read Romans 7:18-20 it shows that even thousands of years ago good people struggled with doing bad things. It's nothing to ever feel guilty about. I'm one to talk, feel bad about everything, but it's a waste of time. I try to exchange my guilt and self criticism for actions that will create positive change, like helping someone else.

Hmmm I don't see anything harmful in that? Either way, what Sean said- do you. This app is a resource for all addicts

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Thanks much Sam and Sean. I will leave the name of the person who commented out of this, but I will also share what has led me to question myself for the past few days. I know that tone can be widely misinterpreted through text, but the tone that I received was sorta like a slap on the hand, and that I should know more before I can participate. Anyways…thanks again guys <3

Michael you know this is AA right? Quote the big book. We all find God as we understand God in AA. But you're assuming this man is the same as you.
While your quotes are uplifting to some, to others they may do Harm. AA has reasoning behind respecting each person's personal experience of God. I was saved by God's Grace through AA. AA survives if we refer to AA and it's structure.
Please read up on how to run a meeting.
Then consider writing community comments.

I found what you had to say very encouraging and made me sit back and process and evaluate myself. I don’t think you said anything wrong, I might not be religious, but I am baptized and have gone to church with my mother before she passed. I appreciate everyone here that has offered only the kindest of things to say. I hope you’ve been having better days and keep encouraging and helping people :heart:

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Thank you…his response really threw me off, and I let it stay in my head too long. He won’t even respond so that tells me enough about his intentions. I’m really glad that the information helped you. I only discovered that Paul from the Bible struggled with the same mentality as we do just the day before I saw your post, so I had to share it. I don’t like associating with religion either, religion has ruined everything. I do however study the Bible a lot. Ever since I started, I have found so many answers to the important questions like why is there suffering and what happens when we die…and I’ve discovered that the truth is farrrr from what religion teaches. There is so much valuable information in it, and it’s unfortunate that it’s been falsely represented and used as a weapon. I try to use it as a tool, and I’m glad to hear that it helped.

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I will definitely be reaching out to make a point to check in

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I think your post was beautiful! I appreciate your honesty and I know that only by the grace of God and His Word am I sober!
You keep telling truth and I'm sorry you were hurt! We should be here to encourage and love people.
Today you encouraged me with your strength.
Thanks!

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