At what point do people start taking you seriously about your sobriety.
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Depends on how many times in the past you proved yourself to be full of sh&t. Right? I have never "quit" so my parents were shocked and relieved, but with my drug use (clean since 2006) they were sick of hearing me talk about getting clean.
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Hi Jenni, for me it was equal to the mess I had made. The first time I got sober my family was super distanced and didn’t believe anything. When I got sober this time (7 years later) my whole life had changed, I was a totally different person and people saw that. Some people still hold onto that drunk narrative of me (even after nearly four years), and those are the people I don’t pursue relationships with anymore. Just keeping doing the next right step, and people will come around or they will leave for good, either way, your sobriety is what keeps coming first.
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The question is do you take your sobriety seriously? For me I had to let go and let God. Those who don’t take me seriously are not people I need around me. I have to stay focused on my sobriety program by keeping the three side of the triangle balanced. Recovery, service, unity.
I do understand that it’s hard to not worry about what others think of us, but we really have to let our pride go.
People started taking me seriously when I starting making changes without talking about the changes. Then when I started getting into the steps and helping others. Also, making amends has helped as well. Cleaning up my side of the street.
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Hey Jenni You do have to prove yourself but it doesn't really matter much what others think. You get sober for you. Good friends and family will come to your support pretty quick. But in the end you gotta do it for you. Reach out anytime
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Depends on if you really change or just simply stop drinking. First time I got sober I didn't do anything other than stop drinking/using so I'm not sure anyone really took me seriously. I was still extremely self-centered, selfish, and dishonest. This time I've actually done the work to change with the 12 steps and believe I'm a completely different person. It seems like I have the trust and respect of family and friends this time. There's a big difference between stopping drinking/using and recovering. What I didn't realize is everybody else can tell the difference way before I could. Good luck.
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The goal is to become a better version of myself all around. Mostly for me… but for my kids too!