Back to day 1?

Struggling Help
#1

Man, I just got a text from my sponsor. He told me He cant sponsor me anymore. He is going through a-lot of things and he is backing off sponsoring.

Just mixed with a-lot of emotions right now. Had got Him a gift and everything for when a year came or finishing the steps, he would get something meaningful. I will probably still give it to him, since it's customized.

I am right at step 5 and had finished inventory. We were going to go over that. And there was alot of personal things I had told him and even in the inventory. I will probably ask for his notes or feed back from what he read.

We were also supposed to do three columns together, whatever that means. But i hope that since i was available when he was to meet, because i had court monday and then dealing with the device installation for my car etc.

I know life happens and we all cant handle everything and everyone but man. 2 months i this journey and he played a vital role.

Just very nervous and anxious right now in having to find a new sponsor. Idk if online, here or in person.

But man...

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#2

Everything going to be ok. I know it seems F’d up right now, but go back to step 3 for a minute. Your HP has got you. The universe knows what it’s doing. Remember, our thinking and overthinking is us just trying to control sh!t we have no control over. It only breeds anxiety and fear. Take a deep breath and let it go. Let the power/s greater than you handle this. It’s definitely challenging, but just do what you can do, and more will be revealed to you at a later time.
I’m great at giving advice when it ain’t my sh!t, so just know I’d be upset about it too. It’s what us alcoholics do…overthink it. You got this. We got you

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#3

Thanl you. I have been praying, taking deep breaths etc. i got alot going on too.

Just starting probation, the financial part of it, community service, a device being installed friday, a possible suspension of my DL. Etc .

I dont blame anyone but myself for my junk. But i knew this was coming when he apologized and said a week or so ago, to look for a new sponsor because he hasnt been doing a good job.

But i told him dude you were there for me in my time of hardship and i wont give up on you because you were in hospital etc. ill be here.

I will restudy step 3.

#4

Is he backing off bc he’s relapsing or is there another reason? Maybe he needs you just as much as you need him. Sounds like you are though, telling him how much he’s helped you, been there for you. Hopefully y’all can pull through this together. Praying for you both🙏

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#5

Im not sure if hes relapsed but i know he has been going thru alot. Health, financial, mentally, loss of a baby, personal etc.

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#6

But he isnt replying back to me. Could be in hospital couldve shyed away. But it shows delivered on text.

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#7

Man, That really is a lot. The loss of a baby😢Just let him know you’re there for him, give him support he needs during this very difficult time for him but also make sure that you’re taking care of You. I will keep both of you in my prayers.

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#8

Just read the second part. I guess I’d just drop him a text every now and then to let him know you’re there whether he replies or not.

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#9

Yes, exactly. He knows it. But yeah thx for the positivity and prayers!

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#10

Sounds like you're doing good. Do you still need a sponsor? Only you know. Just remember you are the strong one captaining your own ship.

#11

Ty. Yes still looking and praying

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#12

Maybe switch rolls and send him a message saying you're available to support him if needed. Beyond that, I'd take a step back and let him focus on his issues

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#13

Yeah. He knows im there if needed. Taking a step back is it

#14

Good luck. My own recovery isn't yet in a place to help others, but I hope it will be one day.

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#15

Ty and do all you can and be willing. Tc

#16

In person is the way to go. You will find another sponsor. Just keep going to meetings and listening.

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#17

That’s OK, Michael . We are glad you were here. Don’t give up the fight. Remember you are worth fighting for.

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#18

Thx yall