I'm struggling with understanding how to balance sobriety and my work life/appointments. I'm not going to post my whole schedule because that's not what I'm looking for, however I'm just struggling I guess with finding motivation and energy to keep it all going. I've had to reschedule appointments because I don't have enough energy or just don't feel like getting out of bed. I religiously go to my one meeting a week no matter what because it makes me feel better.
So just for today: how do you all balance your scale?
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A guy once talked about the biggest act he does for his sobriety is making his bed. 
. So by making his bed it started his routine. Then from there he just started doing the things he need too do. Basically making his bed got him out of bed and got his day started. So I say too you make your bed
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I learnt I am what I consume. So if I am tired and have no energy, when I reflect I see what drained me. Is it something that can be changed or minimized? If I have a 1 hour commute that drains me, I can minimize its effects on me by making it fun. Better music, a great cup of coffee, letting people go ahead of me. Changing my mindset happens a little every day.
Proper rest helps a lot as does some routines. So I agree with the make your bed first.
There are other ways to naturally give yourself a boost of dopamine (motivation and reward)
Cold showers - I tried this early in recovery and it works!
Make your bed, writing a short to-do list, cleaning a small space, finishing a small task or task(s).
Natural endorphins (energy and pain relief) can come from
Dancing to a song, Quick workouts, Laughing out loud, Deep breathing and taking a warm shower.
If you feel any difference after trying any of these I would love to read about it!
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I weight what is absolutely necessary vs things that aren’t if I haven’t thought about the things that are missing in over a week I move on from it!
For me, it’s recovery. I don’t have a life in recovery until recovery becomes my life. Like I said this is only my opinion. I go to a very early meeting every morning. I get myself up get my steps in walking there and back and I have a bunch of service positions. I stay very active in recovery. With being up early in the morning, I am productive. My energy levels are nice and high and I feel I’m in the best place that I’ve ever been. Like I said that’s only me you do you.
Balancing Life.
Accountability.
Actions. Activity.
It's OK not to make appointments or to be clear about yourself with the difficulties of being human. Sometimes just because we are extremely busy doesn't mean we have to fill every moment of our day. I try yo prioritize my life by what's most important and be accountable for the purpose. We don't have to be perfect.
Hey, sorry to hear you are struggling. These suggestions are all great. I would like to suggest maybe making an appointment for a few coping skills groups or sessions. These behaviors and the lack of intrinsic motivation sounds like depression. If these continue, it may be depression. If you are new to being sober there is a lot of resets happening that take time and maybe a medication coupled with therapy could help. Stay strong! Great job reaching out!
I actually have more energy since quitting drinking,im more focused,take my vitamins, but meditation,music,or my grateful list I do when I wake up.I also make my bed first like I did in rehab.I guess for me its to start a routine because before I dodnt .I just did what I normally did,undisciplined and unmanageable. I hope you go to more meetings and find strength 