Been thinking a lot about my dad. He died back in 2001. We didn't have the best relationship, I pushed I know I did. But the way he reacted was not okay, what he did was not okay, and what he did over and over and over again was not okay. I was a kid he was supposed to protect not hit. How do you make amends to a dead person if it's even your fault.
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Thank you so much that that's very true
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I think first you could forgive yourself.
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I never thought of it like that Mike thank you very much
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Everybody has a wounded kid inside. Show yours some love.
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That's the thing I had such a twisted love like I didn't know where one ended and the hatred began you know but I know I have to show myself some love I'm my worst critic. I never think I can do anything. I always think people think I'm stupid. Which I'm really not. The s*** that I've lived through to just healthwise never mind anything else that I've been through and I've been through a lot health Wise my life has been a s*** show from the time I was 7 years old that's the first time I remember actually being sick and you know all of that I don't know what one has to do with the other I'm sorry I got off topic but my brain just went there
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That's okay, I followed 
Just give yourself a little grace.
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I will thank you so much you too
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To get a better understanding of what you went through I suggest Al-anon meetings/ Adult children meetings I've had grown up with abuse too those
Meetings helped me greatly it wasn't your fault no child should be abused
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Prayer and supplication. 
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Thank you so much for that and I will definitely check into that
Thank you so much Mark
Steps Eight and Nine come to mind.
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Thank you
My mom died in 95. I got sober in 2020. At about 6 months sober I found myself grieving her death like it was fresh. It was my feelings and emotions returning from the suppressed state I kept them in for so long.
Whatever you are feeling is important and valid. When we make amends it is of and for our behavior. Not the other person. So a living amend to a person who you had a conflicted relationship with might look like this: dad, sobriety has given me a new life and I will live it in a way that represents my morals and values. I will strive to make good decisions and be a positive influence on all whom I interact with.
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Thank you so very much for that I think I'll do something just like that. I've been talking to him a lot during the day lately and with my mom.
This is something I have not thought about.
My best guess would be to try it through prayer.
I will eventually need to make amends to my many friends and family who have passed and it’s the only thing I can think of. 
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Thank you so much and I wish you happiness and health and peace on your way
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As long as you become willing! Pray for that person to have everything I need in life to be happy you will be released
Thank you I will do just that thank you very much