Being in a marriage with someone who i don’t want/love anymore. Have to drink to get through intimacy
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Hey V. That may have worked for you at one point, but I imagine you’re here because it’s not working anymore. Whether or not you realize it, you do have a choice. You may feel “stuck”, but at the moment you are choosing to stay in it and drink. Time to face reality and put down the drink my friend. We are here to support and walk you thru to the other side 
❤🩹
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I agree with Lee, there are lots of good people here. All you have to do is reach out 
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Time to unstuck yourself. That is no way to live everyday. We are here to support you.
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Thank you, I do know it’s not working anymore. I have to change something. I appreciate your response
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Yes, that’s exactly how I feel, stuck 🥹
I’d say it’s time to get out.. life is too short to be miserable.. and drinking sure isn’t the answer.. I’ve been there. I may be alone but I’m happier..
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Get out
Not gonna recommend leaving. I am going to recommend counseling. If there is something to salvage counseling will help you see it.
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If you want to move forward it takes hard decisions sometimes.it comes down to honesty with yourself.the hardest part is not listening to that little voice that creates self doubt or justifies your negative thoughts just because it's the easy way.only you know what your needs are.we are here to help and support your choices that help you become the person you are becoming.
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Thank you, being honest with myself is a hard thing to do sometimes. Easier to please other and avoid conflict
Avoidance only eats away at self respect.stand tall and take pride in every choice.right or wrong you made a choice which gives you the opportunity to eliminate self doubt and the "what if's" and gives you knowledge to better understand you and what you need to become the best you
The thing that has gotten me hung up in this recovery journey is the divorce that took place in recovery, She is in love with someone else but me at the same time, it's a temporary fix for her and in order for the situation to get better she has to forgive herself and then forgive me we tend to deal with things once we hurt someone by masking that and not being truthful with ourselves about the lies we continue to live today my motives are pure and the past is the past. Live and let live.
Hey V. I hope you are taking care of yourself and practicing self care and healthy ways to cope with the problems in your marriage. My sponsor advised me some years ago that in early sobriety, it’s not advisable to make drastic change such as leaving a marriage, quitting your job, etc. I second the thoughts of the previous commenter that you might want to explore therapy first. Sending you healing energy!
Oh NO!!