I was betrayed by somebody who I thought was my friend. It turns out that she has been talking about me at work. She got me the job and her has been saying hurtful things ever since. Behind my back, I didn’t even know about it until recently, and the things that she’s been saying hurt me so deeply. Because they’re not even valid or real she’s just frustrated with me. It’s just horrible and I don’t know how to deal with it. I don’t think that we’re gonna be able to continue having a friendship after the things that she said about me.
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It’s OK to not be friends. You need to protect yourself and if she is going to be a gossip and a Backstabber, then she doesn’t deserve to be your friend.
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What people say about me is none of my business. Your actions are what matters
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@marissa370824 ....
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CONGRATULATIONS on your 1067 days of sobriety. - You're going to be okay. It sounds like someone is jealous, intimidated and fearful of you.
Take it as an honor that this other individual is allowing you to have dominion over themselves.
Take it as an honor that they are powerless over you.
Take it as an honor that they are letting you live rent free in their head.
I take is as an honor to call you friend.
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If they are not valid, they are her issues, not yours. Confront her over a private lunch or dinner. Find out her feelings. Maybe you are now threatening her job, doing better than she is at your work. Maybe she is afraid, or regretting getting you the job.
Get open with her. Clear the air. Maybe the friendship is worth restoring. Do all with love, for her and yourself.
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Couldn’t have said it better myself!