My fiance is abusive and it's so hard to leave when you love that person more than anything. But it also makes it harder than anything to stop using drugs.
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This was my life for a long time— way too long actually. People used to tell me “your life will be better when you finally get away & move on”…. I NEVER believed anyone!! Especially in active addiction and my confidence is absolute crushed. I’m here to tell you it truly does get better… Way better! Here for you always feel free to reach out.
Kim
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Do you have any women’s shelters near you? Maybe starting to sketch out a plan will help set things in motion if you don’t already have one.
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Sorry for your situation. Kim has already shared her experience, strength, and hope. Hope you can get some support here from other women on here as well. You need the support and strength from others to help you thru this. While I don’t have direct experience to share with you, I have a world of experience in feeling stuck and being a victim. In order to get sober I had to change this mindset. I always felt like I had no choice. Sounds like you feel stuck and powerless in this situation. The truth is by not choosing to leave, you are choosing to stay. Take responsibility for your life. Take your power back. I’m not telling you to stay or to leave. However, if you choose to stay, you should say I choose to stay with my abusive partner. It’s the same choices you need to make if you want to stay clean and sober. Your partner is not an excuse. Ultimately, you make that choice. If you can wake up in the morning and be mindful of what choice you want to make that day, that’s a great start. Then keep making that choice one choice at a time as the day goes by. This takes a lot of practice. It takes a lot of courage. You will have plenty of setbacks. However, if you keep at it, and get some support from others, you will get stronger and stronger.
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Very helpful thank you 
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