Boundaries used to be the thing I didn’t realize I

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Boundaries used to be the thing I didn’t realize I didn’t have until I got sober.

This week I wrote about learning to set them without blowing up relationships:
— saying “no” to environments that are too hot right now
— keeping the relationship, changing the setting
— and accepting that some people won’t like the new version of me

If you’re in recovery: what’s one boundary that’s helped you stay sober without burning bridges?

Substack: Boundaries That Don’t Burn Bridges - by Robert T. McCune
Medium: https://medium.com/the-recovery-writers/boundaries-that-dont-burn-bridges-67c8cd63000c

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Well written article again. Thank you for sharing.

Learning that 'No' is a complete sentence.

Starting with "let me think about it" or "I will let you know soon" may help by giving time to think things through.

Even though its hard to remember to say it as simply as that.

Hopefully it gets easier with practice.

I have tried to implement a three strikes and I am keeping my distance policy.
Mentally tracking someone who has disrespected or taken advantage of me and then not allowing them to do it again.

I am a work in progress and always looking for suggestions though.