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12 years 4 months and 1 week into my journey of soberity im proudly setting the i dont want to date someone who drinks boundary firmly. Oh its been there as a light suggestion for the men ive dated and i was saying for a long time i dont want to date someone sober bc thats all we have to talk about. I realized maybe its bc i didn't 12 steps to get sober so im not on repeat. No offense. But months ago i broke up w a guy bc every date included alcohol. The smell still makes me sick. (Honestly i still see my dad in liver failure scratching at his body til he bled over and again orange and weak due to his addiction. Nothing but a skeleton w stretched skin and muscles curled up from not being able to more.) He called last night three sheets to the wind mad i didnt have him in my phone, and wanting to get back w me. He argued w me for hours only bc i was trying to give my mom a proper 74 birthday amist this texting calling mess of a mans communication. I did finally block him but it triggered fear, and sympathy. Im bad for boundaries, im mean... that inner voice... no soberity is selfish you have to do it for you... its the only way to stay sober. My dad had 17 years bc he got sober for mom. They divorced and dad went right back to the bottle. His words ring true... i didn't want you like me , im sorry you got this addiction too, but please stay selfish... i will pops i promise... i will. Keep your boundaries to keep your soberity no matter what they are.
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Boundaries and keeping them
I had to leave my partner for the same reason. Thanks for sharing, it helps reassure me I've done the right thing
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