Can I do this alone?

Recovery
#21

My problem with AA is where I lived. When I first went to the meetings I was living in the SF Bay Area and there were meetings 24 hrs a day of all sorts with plenty that were of a more secular sort. Then I moved to a smaller town and the meetings were decidedly Christianity-based and I couldn't get past it and after 7 yrs of sobriety I tripped and had a beer and within 3 yrs I was back to my old ways. Now I live in a place where I can get to agreeable meetings 5 times a week if needed. Secular, Buddhist, and meditation meetings and not so strident about a 'mandatorily proscribed' higher power. We're not all the same and some legwork is required to find what works for you.

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#22

You're never truly alone my friend. Something that has been an absolute game changer for me recently was reading 'Alan Carr's quit drinking without willpower'. Seriously man, it has opened my eyes to the fact that alcohol is a solvent, an anesthetic, a fuel, and a poison. Also a drug that has been marketed to us, whether on purpose or not as so.ething that adds value to life. But every single supposed benefit of alcohol is an illusion. Every single one. When it's no longer weighing good vs. bad but realizing that there is no reason to drink, the battle becomes a simple decision. Love your wife and your kids fully my friend, you can grow and build the beautiful life that you are meant to life. Also, sorry if this seems preachy; my life has been changed for the better with this realization.

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#23

Listen to “sober awkward” podcast - start at the beginning - very inspirational

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#24

It’s better to do this with a support group of some kind AA, NA, smart recovery and just meeting other people striving for the same sobriety. I know for me I reach out all the time. When I got out of rehab I had an entire team set up because if I didn’t I was afraid I wouldn’t do this now 31 months later I thank god for then daily.

Remember you need to do this for you first. It’s not easy but let me tell you the death from this is so brutal and that would be awful for your children to see. One day at a time this can be done.

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#25

Thanks for the tip. I’m going to listen.

#26

I’m utilizing this online community, therapy, podcasts and books. Everyone has their own path.

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