Cheated on my ex in a drunken manic bipolar state

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Cheated on my ex in a drunken manic bipolar state and she still won’t talk to me after 2 months, which I think is understandable. We’ve maybe talked one time over the phone but randomly text. She has a 7 year old daughter who I dearly miss. I’ve been sober for 2 months- Does the grief and regret ever go away? Should I expect her at all to communicate or should I myself walk away? No easy answers but it’s nice to vent.

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#2

All you can do is ask forgiveness and respect the answer

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#3

Yeah she won’t give me an answer which I guess is the answer and I just need to give it time. Hmmm thank you for that

#4

I have been thinking of my oldest daughter lately and I have come to the conclusion that it’s in her time not mine and I need to pray on it that I will deal with it the best of my ability if it’s time and my lord will give me a sigh amen​:innocent::innocent:

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#5

Nobody wants to stop until they need to stop

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#6

I had a situation with alcohol and my mother and it took me some time but our relationship now is better than it ever has been

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#7

I have a lot of issues with my mother and it’s hard we’re do I begin

#8

You begin with you self right them down and process what’s important

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#9

Apsolutly

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#10

Amends is still a bit away. Step 9 if you are doing step work. Right now you need to focus on fixing you… inside and out. There is no way to know for sure if she will ever forgive you. Time will tell, but trying to apologize, or “prove” you are sorry right now isn’t going to do any good.

As far as the guilt and regret… it fades in time. The more you heal and allow yourself to forgive yourself the easier it will be. Good luck man.

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#11

I, too, am learning to understand these emotions and see these experiences as opportunities to mature emotionally. Regarding your question, "Does the grief ever go away?" I found this article insightful. Does Grief Ever Go Away? | Thriveworks

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#12

Yes I’m trying to fix me right now good suggestion thanks

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#13

Your not broke just saying

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#14

Yeah I need to remind myself that it’s just hard especially in these first few months but I appreciate everyone’s feedback so far! It really has been helpful

#16

Yeah

#17

Thanks man I realized I don’t have a choice but to stay sober for my own sanity. It hasn’t been easy but I know going down that path the next day will just be anxiety and self hate= the cycle we all know