I recently heard about this through a book i was listening to. I identify with it alot, i created my own rules in interacting with the world through being hurt, uncomfortable, disappointed, etc. I would go through life plugging the working variable into a given situation, relationship, conversation. It was extremely isolating and all the friendships felt superficial because i was just performing functions.
Im glad i worked my way out of that behavior and became willing to risk being vunerable and genuine, making mistakes in an effort to learn. Also extremly happy to have a understanding of the prison i had built for myself.