It’s unfortunate for all of us.
You're not clueless, more like clued in. They were never true friends. Besides my brother i have 2 true friends. I actually put a pillow under my head when he couldn't get me to bed then checked on me later that night. That's a friend. I'm sober 130 days since then. Friends are not if they expect you to drink. Sober is the only way. Reach out if you need to. Best of luck
Not clueless just not inebriated!
Hey Jason- congrats on your time. It’s amazing that so early on in your sobriety, you see the value of establishing a sober network. I can relate to it being difficult- and here’s my 2 cents if it’s helpful…
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Try new meetings, but also don’t give up on people too quickly just because of age, views, (insert whatever judgement here).. I found that showing up to the same meetings lessens the isolation I feel, even if these people aren’t gonna turn into my best friends
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Do you have cocaine anonymous or narcotics anonymous in your area? I found a badass CA meeting on Friday nights that I have so much fun at. Cocaine isn’t my DOC, but any addict is welcome.
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Keep expressing gratitude for your new found freedom, friend and eventually our feelings will follow.
Don’t be a stranger! Stay well!
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Wow! I came down here originally for treatment as well. I stayed partly because of the wonderful sober community and support available here. The hardest part about trearment for me was leaving and then continuing my program out of treatment. I think this app helps with some of that. Staying connected is so important.
I really wish there was a CA in my area but I live in a small snooty town so it's doubtful that it's around. May hit a NA meeting. I've been going to different AA meetings as well as Zoom ones quite often to keep my sanity. Luckily my kids have kept me busy so I've been pouring my soul into them. Thanks so much for the advice and words of encouragement.
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Hey Jason, my first Sponsor was great about plugging me into a network. He had me get phone numbers at every meeting and call 5 people a day. Awkward at first, but eventually I was just chatting and getting to know people. Also, attend the business meetings in your home group - great way to make friends! We have a new life now and it takes getting out of our comfort zone. Keep coming back my friend!