Sober date is 8/1 so just under 45 days. Boy do your so-called friends scatter like roaches when you're in recovery. Luckily I have some friends that don't party but I have to say the hardest part is not having a sober network. I've been going to AA meetings but haven't really found one that I've liked. Ill keep going but I really hope I can click with some sober people. I usually have no problem meeting people but this is 1st time in years I've attempted to sober so it's a learning curve. Clueless in North Cackalacka.
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I don’t have one either. I’m a loner most of the time. I don’t mind. I can bounce whenever I want when I’m out and when I’m home, nobody is doing any stupid sh*t around me. It’s peaceful but does get old every once in a while. Right now I need it to be this way. It’s easier to run from trouble and stay sober. Today is 105 days for me. Hang in there! 
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Yep, a couple of them said they were behind me 100% but none of my old drinking buddies have called, texted or anything since day 1. And that was almost 3 years ago. Better off without em.
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In the beginning I had 3 people to talk to.but they passed.keep go to meetings.and different meetings all over.
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Speaker meetings are good.
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Sorry to hear, my condolences.
I felt like damaged goods. Some had worse issues than me but I decided to stop
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Overcoming the boredom was definitely a challenge for me. I recommend diving into hobbies so your whole network isn’t just people in recovery. I replaced booze with board games which helped keep me social.
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Great advice thanks so much. Just joined a gym and been hitting a lot of meetings in the mean time. One day at a time right?
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Totally understand. Loneliness can be very difficult. You know you’re still better off on this side tho 
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Absolutely 
Stay with it Jason and hoping you find your local community!
If you're anything like me and like to be a loner, be careful. You're sick thinking is your worst enemy, that's why we have to talk with each other and ideal I have a sponsor to call out your bullshit thinking. Not that you're like that, just speaking in general and of myself. And also replacing the time that you used to spend getting high hanging out hunting for the drugs all that, with something new. People stop doing drugs & drinking but they don't know what to do with their time, So they relapse. Just sharing my two biggest issues through the years.
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Did your friends become supportive
Yesss!! Love those! Always good to hear others stories and keeps me humble and grateful!
Hang in there, try online meetings if nothing else. I haven’t tried, I got lucky and lots of great meetings are in my area.
I posted details about a new loosid meeting today at 5. Check out my post or message me for details.
Zoom meetings are great because you can go anywhere virtually. Ask for some suggestions. I lived in NC (Durham) and know some good meetings there if that happens to be close for you
Thanks Julia, been doing the Zoom meetings nightly and love them. I'm a ways from Durham but go to the ones near me atleast once a week. On a side note I was just in West Palm, actually Singer Island in treatment. Beautiful down there. Went to some meetings there
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